Thursday, November 5, 2009

anonymous comments

This comment was just posted by Anonymous:

Hey mom! That's not very "christian" of you to tell me to get a life. Maybe you need to get one too besides going to Target every chance you can get and then blogging endlessly about it!!! If you don't like my comments about T.V. then maybe you will listen to the American Academy of Pediatrics and what they say about children under 2 watching T.V. (see below)The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that kids under 2 years old not watch ANY (hear that Target mom!) TV and that those older than 2 watch no more than 1 to 2 hours a day of quality programming.The first 2 years of life are considered a critical time for brain development. TV and other electronic media can get in the way of exploring, playing, and interacting with parents and others, which encourages learning and healthy physical and social development.

I'm sorry if my comment seemed not "christian," although I still don't really know what that means. All a Christian is is an imperfect being saved by grace in Christ. And I need more grace and forgiveness than most. I don't think I've been shy about admitting that fact.

On the other hand, I am ALL DONE with people judging my parenting and acting like they "know" what kind of mother I am based on what I choose to share here on my blog. Most mothers can skip baths, leave their kids in their pajamas all day, don't have to do two hour dressing changes DAILY, and get a small break when their kids close their eyes (as opposed to having to use every nap as an opportunity to struggle to feed your child). If I need to put Jonah in front of the TV to brush my teeth or eat my lunch or fold the laundry, I am going to put him in front of the TV... you know, horribly brain-rotting television like Little Bear. Please do not act like you know how I engage, interact with, or educate my child. I spend more quality time with Jonah than about 99% of parents... and I don't take a moment of it for granted. I love it. I live for it. I do anything and everything for him. And God gives me the strength, patience, and perseverance to do it day after day after day. I wish you could be here to see what a day is like for us. Then you might be a little slower to "speak."

And obviously you are ashamed of what you have to say (or at least the way you are going about saying it) because you continue to post as Anonymous. I loved the way one reader said it, "If you have an opinion, then OWN IT."

I have TWO email addresses on my sidebar where you can contact me. I would appreciate you using mine instead of Jonah's since his should be reserved for encouragement. What a coward you are! YOU are the one who should be ashamed.

To everyone else:

So many of you post as Anonymous, and you are so uplifting, so encouraging, so completely wonderful. But I cannot take comments from the cowards ANY longer. They bring out the demon in me. They make me so angry I shake. They ruin my day. They drive me nuts. I'm home all day long trying to take care of Jonah as best I can. I have very few hobbies; very little time for non-Jonah things. But the blog is a hobby that I enjoy. It's meant to be positive - sometimes happy, sometimes sad, sometimes funny, sometimes sarcastic, sometimes completely superficial - but never mean or hateful. It was started for Gabe. I continue it for Jonah. It's mostly for my family and a scrapbook for my boys. It's my blog.

And I need it to be a good thing. For me. For my family.

So...

I am no longer allowing anonymous comments. This is not the first instance where people have abused that they can post comments faceless... with no accountability, no consequence. They can abuse innocent people for whatever reason. I don't get it. I don't get people who spend their time reading blogs they don't agree with just to hurt the people who write them. I don't get it. I don't get why they are so angry or jealous or hopeless or sad that they have to take their time to bring down other people.

And I would say I'll just delete them and move on, but I know, emotionally, I just can't take it. My skin is too thin. My heart is too fragile. My brain is too tired.

So please, please, if you are a regular positive poster who posts as Anonymous, I'm begging you to take the time to register with gmail or post with an ID. I still want to hear from you! You warm my heart. You make me feel like I'm surrounded by friends... even when I'm all by myself. You make me excited that there are positive people in the world who will love on and care for Jonah, despite his outward appearance. I hope you stay!

And for all the haters, feel free to email me if you'd like to have an open discussion about something you disagree with. You don't need to hide. If you feel so strongly enough about something you feel the need to comment, then email me. If you have an opinion, OWN IT!

Thank you to the 99.5% of you who lift us up and encourage us every day. We thank God for you!

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Janet said...

You go girl! I'm surprised you've put up with it for this long. We all (most all of us anyway) love you and your family and the heck (he**) with anonymous!

Janet

Jenny Hintze said...

Uggghhhh, so irritating! Not you no longer allowing anonymous comments but that you have to go to that. I've never allowed anonymous comments on my blog for the same reason. Some people are just plain mean-spirited. I LOVE coming to your blog to read about Jonah so PLEASE don't stop blogging because of those cowards. And fyi, my kids have watched (probably) too much T.V. since birth and they're both brilliant.

Amanda said...

Good for you Patrice!! I love how people can CHOOSE to read about someone else's life, then feel the need to comment negatively about something that they CHOSE to read.

I have 4 kids who have watched their share of TV since they were wee ones--In fact--I honestly think that Noggin partly made my 7 year old the genius he is today. If mommy has to go do dishes or just take a 5 minute "mommy time out", then at least he's in a safe environment so mommy can keep her head on straight.

And you show me ONE kid who has become an axe murderer from watching Max and Ruby---I can maybe name you one Mommy who would like to strangle a little rabbit sometimes--but I don't think anyone is going to say that Max lead him to a life of crime.

Amber said...

I was one of the eager beavers that loved your preschool TV post and commented...

It really makes me sad that some people take pleasure in bashing people on their blogs and inciting arguments. It's completely uncalled for for anyone to act that way. Whatever happened to, "if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all"?

Those of us out here blogging, especially ones in difficult circumstances, need to be recognized for being human and for laying our hearts on the line in the hopes it can help even one other person.

I started a blog a few years ago, but it took on a whole other dimension when my daughter was diagnosed with cancer and Brenner's became our second home. It has been my outlet for everything we are going through. i second guess myself sometimes and wonder what others think, but then I remember that i am being real. So many people have testified to what that has meant to them and I will not stop.

None of us ever claimed to have it all together. But we are doing what is best for our family and our child with special medical needs.

After our daughter's surgery to remove her kidney and tumor, explore her abdomen and chest, and insatl her portacath- we were sent to the PICU. Her pain meds were not doing the trick and they were having trouble tweaking them. But do you know what worked at 3am when my daughter was suffering? Noggin! It is still her 'pain med of choice'.

I thank God all the time for round the clock preschool programming. It has gotten her through radiation, seven months of chemo, countless hour long scans, horrible side effects, day after day of being NPO for procedures, and months on end of quarantine. It is her happy place, her pain relief, and her getaway. And for that I am grateful for her, for all the other sick kids out there and for Jonah :) Don't let anyone out there tell you how these kids should cope with their pain and frustrations- how dare they.

Jennifer, Sunshine, Angel, Miss Thang, My Birdy (formerly Baby) said...

Anon. has already received toooooo much attention.

" ...people in the world who will love on and care for Jonah, despite his outward appearance" - My children and I have put Jonah in our hearts. I really, truly, honestly hope that there comes a time and possibility to meet Jonah and you both.

Wendee said...

Patrice,

I was proof reading a "longer" post and tried to send and you had just disabled the "Anonymous comments". I don't blame you...I knew it was coming...he/she has been on you several times before...so I signed up, I have to say your family is so special and my kids love looking at the photos and praying for you all. My comments were mostly saying some of the same things that you said in this post. I just really don't understand why people think it is ok to project their issues on someone else and try to make it theirs! Why do people feel its their business how you choose to do what you do? I just don't understand Crazy people without any common sense or appreciation for someone elses opinions or way of doing things. Thanks for sharing your life Patrice and I am sorry you have to put up with the ANONYMOUS people of the world.

Stephanie said...

You go girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm proud of you! and if you wanna put him in front of that tv so you can have a minute to yourself (which you are incredibly deserving of) then you go ahead :) the worst is going to happen is he'll start singing tv songs to you!

katrynka said...

I totally understand! There is almost nothing worse to me than feeling powerless to respond or address something like those comments, because you do not know who they are from.

I do understand the temptation to give your "opinion" (really thinking that you are RIGHT!) But you are so correct that we do not live your life, so we do not truly understand.

Vesti said...

I have read your blog for quite some time, but never commented. As a pediatric medical speech-pathologist, I have had MANY "glimpses" into the reality that is your world. I enjoy your sarcasm, humor, and honesty. You post what many parents in similar situations are afraid to...what's on your heart/mind, and I've given several EB patients your blog address to visit (I hope that's ok!). We will have our first child around the end of April, and I assure you, that the children of this "specialist in pediatric development" will certainly watch TV!!

mooneyequalsmc2 said...

*sigh* the world is full of people that think that they know better but have very little idea.

you have one of the hardest jobs of any mom that I "know" and shame shame SHAME on the person that thinks that what they believe to be true is exactly what should be true for you.

Few of us know what your day is truly like...and as a mom of a fairly healthy kiddo I know that a DVD here and there is sometimes what helps get us all through the day in a healthier state of mind.

Your love for Jonah is, literally, palpable. I cant fathom how someone could judge you knowing your entire story. I know that it must be so hard to hear criticisms...especially when you live every moment of your life for Jonah.

I think that not allowing the anonymous quotes is a good idea though people will still find a way to discourage you.

Try not to let it ruin your evening. Do not let it plant even the tiniest seed of doubt in your mind.

Jonah is blessed to have such a loving mama and daddy and good on you for fighting back.

I am sorry that you have to deal with this stuff. Focus on Jonah and ignore the haters.

With love in Christ
Mindy

Mama J said...

So sorry you have icky people visit your blog! I think you're an awesome mom and I always enjoy the things you have to say ;) Much love...

Jennifer said...

You go girl!! Well said, applaud!! People have to be so inconsiderate of other's feelings. Technology lets this happen...since text has no emotion. I'm sure nobody would come up to you in person and say that!! Praying for you, Anonymous.

Patrice, your blog is so inspiring...I enjoy reading about Mr. J and his many adventures. My favorite is when he steals your computer and writes his own posts :)

Weird Unsocialized Mom said...

I don't get it. I don't get people who spend their time reading blogs they don't agree with just to hurt the people who write them.

Amen, sister! Seriously, do people not have anything better to do with their time than argue with a complete stranger. Arguing for the sake of arguing with someone you don't even know sounds pretty un-Christian to me, Anonymous.

Lennie said...

You know, I think there must be a small handful (and I tell myself it's small to preserve my faith in most of humanity) of people whose goal in life is to take other people down. They must go from blog to blog just spewing their negativity. I applaud you for standing up to them, and I try to remind myself to pray for them because they must live sad, miserable lives if all they can do with their time is try to make other people unhappy.

We pray for Jonah and think you are doing a great job with him! I work with children who have special needs in Charlotte and think that you could stand as a great example to a lot of struggling moms out there. Thank you again for sharing your story with all of us.

Tudi said...

Ugh. Isn't that the way of the world - for one person to ruin it for other people? Sorry you have had to deal with those comments.

I was a former "anonymous" poster (although I signed a name at the end the few times I posted), and while I'll miss that feature, I totally understand. I'm just glad you're continuing to blog and keep us updated about Jonah. I was sooo excited that he had gained weight last week.

Laura said...

I've been reading your blog since Jonah was born, but never commented. Good for you though, you don't need those anonymous comments! God Bless You and little Jonah!!

Shelby Baker said...

Way to go! You tell them! :) That made me all bubbly inside to see you stand up like that. I love reading your blog and am terribly upset that someone would say something like that. My mother put me in front of a TV several times when I was a baby, and I'm sure her mother done it to her, and we turned out fine.

Congrats! :)

Misty Rice said...

Tonight after I pray for Jonah, I will pray for that person as well. That person must really be hurting, sad or living an empty life themselves...and yes are cowards....

But even cowards can be prayed for.

Even cowards can change.

God even loves cowards (not their behavior, but the person they can be if given the change and prayer).

So tonight, I will pray for this person to find peace and happiness within themselves to live a more freeing life and happier life.

Its clear they are unhappy.

Sleep well sister and dont worry.... you let them rob you of your joy. Tomorrow is not a day promised to us or to Jonah. Don't let a stranger, a coward take away your joy with your family today.

God Bless.

Sara said...

Thanks to Ni Hao, Kai-lan, my 2 and 3 year old can say a few words in Chinese and clearly at that! Cartoons now a days are much better/more educational than when we were kids. My kids try to seek a watch at Tom and Jerry once in a while and that show is so violent! I can't believe it is even still on! Or was even on in the first place. You are a good mother Patrice and just like every other EB mom, or mom with a special needs child, you do what ever you have to do just to get through the day!

Bridget said...

I've commented a couple times here and admire you as a mom. I just want to lift you up and say keep on going my friend!
I've followed you since Jonah was in the hospital.....you are a wonderful mother!!!!!!!

I can SO relate! I just posted on this last night! I am a Christian who shares on my blog but has been getting attacked. But the personal comments and emails have been so hurtful. I've been told I shouldn't homeschool my kids because my spelling is horrible. Just down right mean things about my parenting skills.
You love Jonah so much and you can see that through your pictures and writings.

p.s. all 5 of my kids are watching t.v. right now so I can write this:)
(((( hugs))))
Bridget
www.blogginbridget.blogspot.com
p.s. I'm sure that anonymous does NOT have children!!!!

Kirsten: said...

Ughhh, some people just suck. He / She is a coward and needs to get a life! I'm sorry they upset you but glad you realize you have tons of blog readers who think you & your precious tv watching Jonah ROCK!!! =)

Btw, my daughter is 17 months and she has loved watching Elmo for months!!!

brandie said...

I'm so sorry you have to be dealing with this...grr! Way to tell em who's boss ;)

Jessica said...

Well said Patrice! You shouldn't have to take the time on your wonderful blog to address those who only bring out the ugly and negative in the world but you did it well. I on the other hand would have been much less gracious. Jonah is such a blessing to be able to read about. I love seeing his smiling, BEAUTIFUL face and KNOWING God is surrounding your family with His glory and so many prayers! Just shut out the negative and take in all the love that 99 percent of your readers send you every day :) Including our lil' family! We love you Jonut!

Drea said...

You Go Girl! I don't blame you at all for blocking the comments.... from a fellow "My Kids All watch TV" Mom.... I know from what you write and your pics and all I have seen of you through your WONDERFUL blog that #1 you being a Christian and #2 You being a good mom are definitly two things that are to NEVER be questioned- You display both with true love and compassion!!!

Perfect Mothers do not exist- but we have kids who think that we are and that is all that matters... we are doing the best at what we love best!

Never forget.... YOU ROCK! (Jonah tells us all the time when he takes over your blog :)

Kristy said...

Wow. You did a really great job of expressing yourself. I think I would have been too mad to even put together a coherent sentence. Anonymous is just really, really sad.

As for TV.....all my boys watch their fair share, but Carson LOOOOVES it. When one of "his" shows are one....he is totally engrossed. But the rest of the time (the majority of his day) - his mouth and his imagination are in overdrive.

My point - yes, he has watched more TV than I ever thougtht a child of mine would. We kind of fell into that routine because he couldn't be as active as his brother. However, it certainly has not turned his brain to mush. His little mind is go, go, go, all the time.

You just keep loving on Jonah and doing what you are doing (including all the sweet tea he wants). He's going to be just fine.

Kristy, mom of Carson, 6, EBS

Tricia said...

I have been following your blog since before Jonah was born and have been in awe of the love and dedication you and your husband have for your little gift sent from Heaven. I have four children and to me your days sound more challenging than my worst days. As mothers we are not perfect but the most of us do the best we can each day. Who doesn't enjoy a trip to Target? I made two just today. God bless you and your family are in my prayers.

Alex(andra) said...

I'll never understand why some people feel the need to bring others down and talk like they know it all. Forget them! Rock on that you're turning off anon comments. I love reading about Jonah, and I think you're absolutely hilarious, so please don't stop blogging!

And if it makes you feel any better, I've been watching TV for forever, (I know my older siblings would set me down in front of it when they babysat) and now I'm in school to be a biochemist/chemical engineer. I'm pretty sure TV ain't hurting Jonah. =) God bless!

Janel Waters said...

Quite proud of you!

And to anonymous I say to you - Don't put too much stock in the American Academy of Pediatrics - remember, these are the same people that several years ago told us to put our babies to sleep on their stomachs and now say that is the worst way for them to sleep. They can be wrong too!! Who knows, next year a study could come out saying that children that watched TV from a young age score better on the SAT than those that don't - you never know!

I completely agree with the poster that said that the TV is her daughters pain med - as someone who endured countless hours of operations myself, the TV was the only refuge I had and it worked.

There is so much more that I want to say to anonymous - but, instead, I will say a prayer for you - that one day you will understand compasion and empathy before the time comes that you need it from others.

Linda said...

SO what if you need a break from your son so you put on the TV for him. Isn't it better for him to at least listen to something, rather than sitting in the middle of a pile of toys??

It is best for you to feel like you have enough energy to take care of Jonah during the day (and night). I too, have been through a similar situation (a son who needed to be tube fed during nap and bed times), it is SO exhausting and sometimes you need a break for your sanity. While this person, is mad at you for letting Jonah watch TV (and loving Target :) basing facts off of some governmental study, MANY moms do the same things. Each child is unique and can handle different things. My son, who is developmentally handicapped, has learned a lot from his tv shows, including a TON of vocabulary.


Don't be discouraged!!!

By the way, I think that Target is the best and only store that should exist :)!!!

Stina said...

I'm a longtime reader but haven't commented until today. I just wanted to say that I look forward to reading your blog every day and always check it to see how you and your family are doing before I go to bed each night. I love your writing style and as a SAHM, I feel like I can relate to much of what you are going through, even though my son does not have EB. We are all moms going through the same thing day after day after day (and Target is a joy - don't let anyone ever disparage it)! I also love your recipe blogs and have made your lasagna - delicious! Anyway, as a "lurker" of your blog I wanted to finally post and give you some encouragement that there are many "strangers" out there who think you are the best and love your family even though we have never met.

P.S. I have a graduate degree in child development from Harvard. And I let my 14-month-old son watch TV. "Anonymous" can shove it.

Logan and Jack's Mommy said...

Good for you!
You are right about all of this. I have twins, and I still have NO IDEA how time consuming your care of Jonah must be.
To me, you are an amazing mother. Jonah is lucky to have you, and you deserve to vent & share on your blog without any negative backlash.

Agnes said...

I have never commented before but I have read your blog for awhile. I love your humor and I appreciate your honesty and I am impressed by your faith. I continue to pray for you and for Jonah.

I haven't read all the other comments, and all I'm going to say about the anonymous thing is that I can't understand why people have to tear others down to build themselves up. Sad and annoying and I don't blame you at all for not accepting anonymous comments.

The real reason I'm commenting is because I don't have nearly the reasons you do and yet I let my not yet two year old watch Sesame Street and other kid friendly TV on occasion. Okay, pretty much everyday, although I try to limit it to a half hour or so. And I have to say that we are AMAZED at how much he learns from it. He started learning to count and then learned his letters and I truly believe it was thanks to Elmo. We talk to him and read to him, of course, and once he showed interest we would talk to him about letters and numbers, but he knew SO MUCH just from watching his shows. Now we've moved on to Leap Frog Letter Factory and he can seriously give the sounds for the majority of the letters. And I get a half hour to work on laundry, dishes, etc. Win, win, in my opinion...the AAP can take their recommendations and well, you know!

nennermommy said...

I have been reading your blog for a while now and this is the second time I have seen someone get on your case... It brakes my heart :( Everyone is entitled to their opinion and so are we, we are all trying to make the best of our world and our life! We don't need others bringing us down... we do enough on our own! I am so sorry hon!!! You did not deserve that at all!!!


P.S. How did Christian and T.v end up in the same sentence???? Blows my mind!!!

Shana said...

I'm so sorry Patrice. Know that not everyone is like that. I have only commented once or twice, but have read for 8+ months. I spent hours reading your story & I love reading about Jonah. You are so funny & I'm truly sorry that you have experienced hateful, angry people.

Slatsette said...

Well... I'm so sorry for what people will say.
Now- the following link has a bad word- a real doozy, but it describes such people so completely that it immediately popped into my head upon your description of events. Again, the following link has a BAD WORD. It's just part of their humor :_)
http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2004/03/19/

Lamandra said...

Heck yes, call the cowards out - anyone who questions how you parent needs to have some of Patrice's sweet tea splashed in their face! You are AMAZING and I don't know how you do all that you do. Amazing mom, daughter, wife, sister, friend, mother, and follower of Christ. You go, girl!!

ashleyjnc said...

Patrice,
What a load of crap you have to put up with!! You are one of the most dedicated parents I can think of, you spend days unable to leave your home, sacrifice so much of yourself for your child, and I really honestly don't think you resent it even for a moment because of Gabe. Your humour always makes me smile, your outpouring is always genuine. I have a rare immune system disorder called Job's Syndrome, and ended up being cared for by my Aunt and Uncle. I am a little envious of Jonah that you are such an awesome mom!! However, I was lucky and well cared for by my Aunt who is LIKE my mom. Anyway, you just inspire me, the end :-)

Happiness is Here! said...

Your amazing and the love and devotion you show for Jonah inspires me to be a better mother, christian, and open minded person. Your brave to allow random strangers to view your life through your blog. Much braver than I am because I can never write open minded for the fear of what others will think of me. My 2 1/2 year old watches TV all of the time. He is a funny, social, loving, kind, little boy who I am certain will be fine! Your doing a wonderful job and don't let anyone tell you ANY different! You know it in your heart and that is all that matters! I pray that whoever has such a "christian" heart to judge you takes a look in the mirror!

Mills Memories said...

Good for you! I truly enjoy your blog! You are an inspiration. We all need to vent sometimes, trust me I am a mommy of 3 boys under the age of 5. We all have good days and bad days. The fact that you have chosen to share your struggles, joy, heartaches, and life with us is amazing! Please know that you are blessing SO many people by telling your story.

4DLife said...

I'm a Mom. I love Target. My kids watch TV. I'm a Christian. And to Anon, I would use the F word in conjunction with the word "off". But that's just me. And God still loves me even though I may or may not have a potty mouth from time to time. Just sayin'. Much love to Baby J from Texas. He makes my heart smile.

KK said...

Bless your sweet heart! I can't understand haters either. I would never waste time reading a blog I didn't agree with and I can't be mean to people like that. Its ridiculous! Oh, and there is no way you are at Target more than I am :)

Melissa @ The Littlest Lobo said...

Patrice,
I'm so sorry you have been the victim of ugly comments like that. They are completely unfounded. You are a GREAT mom! It's obvious how much you love, adore & treasure Jonah. It's also obvious how hard you work all day, every day, to provide for him, and that you NEED a break. Even moms with healthy children need a break, every single day!

I resisted letting my 14 month old son watch tv for about 9 months, then finally gave in. He absolutely LOVES watching Sesame Street & gets great joy from watching it. I say, what's wrong with that? Now I let him watch one episode almost every day because he loves it so much. But sometimes it is a necessity to park your baby in front of the tv in a bouncy seat just to get to take a shower & tend to yourself!

And finally, I am proud to be a Target mom! What on Earth is wrong with that? Is there some Pediatric recommendation that says that taking your kids to Target will turn their brains to mush? That's ludicrous. I can't even imagine why that anonymous poster thought calling you a Target mom was an insult. No matter how much you love being a stay at home mom, all new mothers still can get cabin fever & crave adult interaction or even just a change of scenery. My frequent trips to Target have saved my sanity many a day. Camden loves going with me to Target. Only once in 14 months have I had to cut short a Target trip because he wasn't in the mood. In fact, one of proudest moments happened in Target. You can read about it here: http://thelittlestlobo.blogspot.com/2009/01/best-compliment.html

I completely understand why that ugly anonymous comment got to you, but don't let it get you down. Forget out about them. You know what is right for you & for Jonah, and 99% of your readers know that, too! Kudos to you for standing up for yourself and for Jonah.

Megan :) said...

Hmmm...does anonymous have any children?? Seriously, it seems like those who think they know what's best for other people and there kids have actually never been in the other person's shoes...like being an actual parent...and one with serious medical needs to boot. Just sayin'...cause I've seen it time and time again!

Anywho...Jonah is such a cutie patootie and I enjoy your blog. :) I find blogging to be a fun "hobbie" too!

Praying for a miracle with you!!

amanda said...

I am so proud of you for facing this head on. No one has a right to judge you and the way you and Matt parent Jonah. They have not walked in your shoes and don't know what it is like to have a child with a disability. I have noticed that too many people share their opinion as if it is the bible. We have been all sorts of about how we should and shouldn't parent when it come to our son Ethan (a hemophilia patient), but they have not walked in our shoes and don't know what it is like. Keep doing what is right for the three of you (and God of course), that is all you can do in this life.

For the record I love target too and I am also a school psychologist by trade and my 21 month old watches TV sometimes too. It is not the end of the world; we all do things we need to do to continue walking down the road of life.

Jonah is so cute!!!

Amy, queen of the world. said...

Is it National Anonymous Ignorant Commenting day? I -just- wrote this one someone else's blog a few minutes ago, and on a different blog a few months ago... if you say something, but don't admit you've said it, did you REALLY say anything at all? Discuss. :)

I'm not a frequent commenter, but I'm a frequent reader. I don't know any REAL LIFE parents who haven't used the TV as a quick babysitter for a shower without an audience or for 2 seconds to yourself for any other reason. Don't worry about what the anonymous person said. Like I said, they didn't really say anything at all. :)

dg darling said...

I love you, I love Jonah, and I LOVE that you let us in on this journey each day. I'd live at Target if I could and I tell you TV has saved my sanity on many a day and I'm not ashamed to admit it!

Amanda said...

You tell 'em girl! Keep on doing what you're doing. Jonah already seems like the greatest kid ever and with amazing parents like you and Matt, he'll only grow to be even more amazing. :)

Christian said...

Seriously...this person is so lame that she has to attack your love of Target (which you don't get to go to nearly enough because you ARE a busy mom). Come on, "Target Mom"???? Get a freaking LIFE, Anonymous. What a loser. And guess what, as a person who hold's a Master's degree in Early Childhood and Special Education, and has studied this article from the American Pediatric Association, I did not feel the need to comment on someone's blog about she does with her baby! Why? Because it's none of my stinking business, and it's not anyone else's either!!!!!

Patrice, you are an amazing mother and I cannot believe how strong you are. God is holding Jonah and your entire family in His hands. You do 10 times the amount of work that a non-EB mom does, and you never get a break. God bless you and your Noggin watching, Target loving family.

Likeursoperfect said...

I agree. It seems that the hateful comments seem to come from anonymous people. I've had one or two of them myself, and I blocked anonymous posters, too.

And I agree. WHY read a blog if it just makes you angry? Do these people enjoy how anger makes them feel? It's sad, really.

I am glad that you have this blog. I don't comment often, but I read it every day. Jonah is a beautiful little boy, and you are doing a WONDERFUL job as his mom. I am expecting my first in May, and honestly I hope that I'm half as good as you are!

Just keep doing what you're doing.

Sara said...

I'm so sorry Patrice. You know in your heart, mind, and body that you are a wonderful mommy to Jonah and Gabe. Matt knows it. Your family knows it. Your church knows it. Your readers know it. And most of all, JONAH knows it!

I must be the biggest sinner of all. Our TV stays on from the time we wake up until the time I go to bed, and all day long it plays Sesame Street, Blues Clues, the dreaded Barney (ugh...), Clifford, and many others. Oh well, I'm not perfect :\

LB said...

I love your wittiess (is that a word?) and your protection and passion for Jonah. You are a wonderful Mom. Don't forget it!

amber said...

Way to go! How completely irritating that people are so nasty and rude on YOUR blog. You live a life that very few of us can even imagine! I'm glad you're not going to accept anonymous comments anymore, you don't need to deal with that! Anyway, *hugs*!

Laurie said...

You Rock!!! Keep letting Jonah drink sweet tea and watch TV - he will turn out just fine. Our children watched tv before they were two and we even let them try diet coke (gasp) when they were babies. They are happy and well adjusted toddlers and babies now. You do what you have to do for yourself and Jonah and don't worry about the haters!

Megan said...

Patrice,

I love and pray for you guys daily.

I hope God softens Anonymous' heart.

Always,

Meg

Annalien said...

I read a lot of blogs, a number of them of people struggling with really difficult things in life, and on just about every one of them there had been people who feel the need to leave negative and hurtful comments. And it never seizes to amaze me: why would you like to add hurt to people who are already struggling with more than their fair share of pain?

You are right, this space is yours to vent and to build you up for the incredibly difficult tasks that you face. So if necessary, even enable comment moderation.

I think you are an incredible mother. You have much more patience than I would ever have, you love unconditionally and you have never complained, just vented when things become a bit much to handle, and I really think that this is what this forum should be for. For you to share your feelings honestly and to get positive feedback that will give you strength to carry on.

God bless you and your family!

The Mama said...

Patrice, here's my first post after reading your blog daily since before Jonah was born! We pray regularly for that darling Jonah and KNOW that God's hand is upon him...no question. While we've never met, it seems as though we know you as you are so beautifully open about your life...the good, bad and the ugly. Thank you for being REAL!

Target, t.v., sweet tea?? Those things don't matter. What does matter is that YOU, Jonah's mama and daddy, LOVE LOVE LOVE him and LOVE the Lord! Better yet, God hand-picked you and Matt to be Jonah's earthly guiders and protectors. A fabulously perfect fit!

Continually, I am encouraged by your willingness to share, so much so that I've got your blog linked on my own blog. I don't mess around with nonsense-type of chatter...give me something of substance, something to HOLD onto!
That's what there is with you.

To summarize, I think this anonmyous creep ought to be careful of the potential uprising of the "Williams Family Blog Stalkers"...they're a protective group on guard, ready to pounce and take down any conflict for this precious family.

Be strengthened in Him, trusting His ways and the peace only He can bring about in you. You're doing a fantabulous job Patrice!!

(By the way, my last name is Williams also! Maybe another reason why I like you so much!)

Love to you, Cathy

www.fullhousemama.blogspot.com

Josh, Jenny, & Emma Newnam said...

My 14 month old watches the Backyardigans in the morning while she plays so that I can load the dishwasher, wash clothes, and pick up around the house. Moms need all the help they can get. I can't even imagine what a day for you is like, however, I know that it must take a special person to do what you are doing. I know at times it is very frustrating and you feel like there's nothing more you can do, but just remember we are all here praying for you. Jonah has the most amazing parents in the world. He is lucky to have you both.

Nicole said...

pffffffff! When I think my cousin had a health visitor telling her she should have a TV in the house for baby girl to "open" her eyes on mouvement colors etc...
My cousin looked around and said the shelves covered with books could do the same!

there is always someone to know best!!
pfffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff

One Down, One to Go said...

Oh my goodness me. Just for the record my eldest daughter who is now 23 watched tv every day for most of her youth. Sometimes an hour, sometimes more, sometimes less. She is now, at 23, one of the most beautiful, articulate and intelligent human beings. She has empathy, feelings and sympathy. She has pursued her dream and is now living it. All that and she watched tv. Every. Day.

Good on you for blocking anonymous comments, do whatever you have to. For what it's worth I think you are doing an awesome job with Jonah. So easy for people to cast their comments without having walked for a moment in your shoes. I love reading your blog, rarely a day goes by where I don't check it (often if you haven't updated I will keep checking).

Keep going old girl, ignore the wretched buggers and tell them to sod off. Keep smiling, keep updating and give that wee boy a kiss from Sydney, Australia.

Lizzie said...

Alright I'll come out of the closet. (I think I may have once before but can't remember.) I stumbled across your blog when Jonah was born through the 2 degrees of separation that is the YL web. I live in London and my husband and I love reading your honest and hilarious updates. I've not missed one post since baby Jonut was born and have nothing but admiration and encouragement for you. You don't seem to just be coping but LIVING and you've got such a handsome little son. And occassionally, I do care about what you ate, unless it's impossible to get in England! Thanks for sharing your life with us and letting us be a small part of it. Lots of love, The Brown's

Nat said...

You are so right, these people have no idea what your day can look like, I have 3 healthy kids and it's not always easy so when I read what you are going through every single day and that you say you wouldn't change a thing as long as you get to see those gorgeous eyes looking at you, i would say that you are definitly one of the most caring and loving mother I know, don't let these angry and frustrated people get to you, they are not worth it.

Emilie said...

Patrice,
I read your blog every day from up here in Maine, but I rarely comment. I am just like you and would be pissed off by a comment like that woman's, but you need to remind yourself of all the good that you put into and get out of this blog and that one comment from time to time from a sad, pathetic, hopeless person who needs attention in anyway she can get it should not take away from the rest of the people who are rooting for you out in the world. Clearly you know this on a logical level: that person has issues! It isn't about you! But emotionally, you feel defeated when you are putting every ounce of yourself into something and somebody suggests you aren't doing it right. Don't give that sad person any power... whoever it was probably wanted to, for some sick reason, get a rise out of you!

Anyway, we, your readers, love Jonah and because of your blog, we are all thankful for mothers like you, and we are all reminded daily that when we give our kids a bath or they take a nice nap that we should not take that for granted.

God bless you, Patrice. IF ONLY every mother in the world were like you!

Claire said...

Great post, honey! I cannot believe the rudeness and the cowardice of that anonymous poster! Goood for you for having your say!

Cxx

spencerswimdude said...

Patrice -
I have been following your story since the beginning (well almost). Sweet, sweet, adorable Jonah is so blessed to have you loving on him daily. I have never posted before. Its funny to me that having the anonymous feature removed is what prompted me to do so. Stand up and be responsible for your actions. That is what we are teaching our children to do! Keep up the amazing work, parent is a day to day journey!

Becky

Jackie said...

You are amazing....and don't be discouraged by people who don't understand the situation. YOu are a badge of courage honor and strength that comes from our blessed heavenly father. Hang in there!

Auntie D said...

You stand strong!! You are an awesome mommy to Jonah and don't let anyone try and tell you differently! I don't blame you one bit for removing those anonymous comments! I can't believe people have enough time in the day to be so negative! I love your blog and love hearing about Jonah! Lifting you up in prayers. :)

Staci said...

So I guess when my kids learn to speak some words in Spanish from watching Dora and Diego I am turning their minds to mush? When they count along with the Count on Sesame Street I am corrupting their minds? Well, shoot...report me to the American Academy of Pediatrics then! I'd like to know the statistics on how many pediatricians out there with children NEVER allowed their child to see Big Bird until after the age of 2! Keep up the good work Patrice and I am sorry you have to turn off anonymous comments but glad you are putting these bullies in their place :) By the way...has Jonah ever watched a Veggie Tales video? My kids LOVE them and they teach kids about stories from the Bible. I bet you could find some copies at...GASP!...TARGET!!!!!!!!!

Jamie said...

I have never understood why people who disagree CONTINUE to read blogs and comment negatively. Move on, people! I enjoy your blog. And we all put our kids in front of the tv, even just for a moment. If I didn't turn it on at 4:00, dinner would never be ready by 5. Jonah's a cutie!

Lauren said...

Well said and good choice to turn off the anonymous.

And it just made me laugh how it automatically turns to "Christian" as the first snide remark.

You're an awesome mom, Jonah's doing just fine with a little TV time, and everyone knows that going to Target is the coolest.

ashpuck said...

I don't get it either! Why? The older I get the more I realize that people are just weird. Who knows why people do the things they do. I've heard the saying "hurt people, hurt people" obviously they are very angry and hurt and get enjoyment from doing the same to others. Personally I have a hard time praying for people like that. I need to work on that one because I know that they need prayer just like the rest of us.

Keep doing what you are doing Patrice. I see what a wonderful mother you are to Jonah and how happy you and Matt make him. God gave you that little boy because he knew you would love him and care for him the way you do. God knew you would rely on HIM for the strength you need to care for Jonah and EB. You are special and I love reading all about your day, either funny, sad or just talking about what you got at Target! I love seeing that you are a normal everyday mom who has struggles and needs forgiveness and grace and mercy just like the rest of us. I love the humor you and Matt have that helps you get through the hard times. There have been many times that your posts have helped me find faith when I didn't have any.

Keep being You!

~Ashley

nancy said...

How dare this coward attack Target!!!!!!!!!! Well and you too! Why didn't she attack Chick-fil-A too? I am sure in her "so called" educated way something is wrong with that as well! I hope and pray you won't ever have to hear anymore negative comments from your blog because in my opinion you get the #1 MOM AWARD in the world!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keeo on keeping on what you have to do to make you sane but most importantly what makes Jonah happy! It seems that is your purpose no matter the sacrifices YOU have to take! If watching a little TV is the worst thing you/us/our children do, then what a better world we would all have!
This woman has struck a nerve with me! DO NOT PICK ON OR HURT THE WILLIAMS ANYMORE! YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW THEM! GET A LIFE OF YOUR OWN BECAUSE THEY HAVE ONE......THEY LOVE THEIR GOD FIRST, THEIR BOYS ARE THEIR WORLD, TARGET, CHICK=FIL-A AND SWEET TEA! HA-HA, YOU WILL NEVER GET TO HURT HER AGAIN, SO THERE!

NANCY:)

Megan @ Hold it Up to the Light said...

Good for you! Can stand the mommy judgers....specially the anon ones.

"Let He who has not sinned cast the first stone..."

My pastor has a "file 13" policy with anon letters and comments on his blog. To the trash IMMEDIATELY! He is a wise man, and I think you are wise to do this. Not worth the brain power.

Ben said...

you tell em' Girl!!it is sad how pathetic people are...get a life! besides it is none of their d%*n business what you do or how you do it! keep blogin' it girl. i think you are precious and funny. too bad ya'll live out of state..if ya'll are ever in ga. we need to hangout..my MIL lives near raleigh. ya'll are in NC right? much love girl~erin

Heather said...

There are some really mean, judgmental people in this world and it needs to stop! I am sorry "ANONYMOUS" is such a @$$ Hole. You are doing a wonderful job with Jonah! Keep it up girl! Your doing great!

Christina said...

You know what, you dont have to explain anything to ANYONE! Those of us who read your blog regularily KNOW what a great mother you are. Who cares what some "anonymous" pot stirrer thinks! You are a far better mother than most thats for sure.

P.S "anonymous" go stuff it!!

KM said...

So sorry you have to deal with people spewing all over your blog. Glad you are standing strong in your maternal awesomeness. Good for you for taking away their ability to hide behind anonymity. xoxo

Design from the Heart said...

Isaiah 54:17 (Amplified Bible)

But no weapon that is formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue that shall rise against you in judgment you shall show to be in the wrong. This [peace, righteousness, security, triumph over opposition] is the heritage of the servants of the Lord [those in whom the ideal Servant of the Lord is reproduced]; this is the righteousness or the vindication which they obtain from Me [this is that which I impart to them as their justification], says the Lord.

Isaiah 54:17 gives us a good idea of what God thinks about those who try to hurt us - basically says that no weapon (mean, dirty lying word or action) formed against you can prosper (go anywhere, mean anything or even be believed) and that you (just by being what God made you) will prove it to be wrong. God doesn't like people messing with his kids - so when people attack you they are really attacking Christ in you! You are an amazing mommy and Jonah is in no way being harmed by watching a little TV - that is just ridiculous. The person who attacked is probably one of those idiots who doesn't even have kids but wants to tell the rest of us how to do it.
Shake it off girl - there's many many more pulling for you and your family than against you :)

Melissa in TN

Penny said...

I "parked" my 1 1/2 year old in front of Barney 16 years ago, because with a blood disorder and hospitalizations she got a wee bit spoiled to all the attention. The ONLY way I could cook, clean, and do laundry was pop Barney in. No apologies either. She is an Honor Student and is graduating High School in May. I give Barney all the credit! =)
You don't have to take any crap, nor do you deserve to.

The Foster Home said...

I am so in agreement with the fact that if you have an opinion OWN IT. Don't hide behind the anonymous. I doubt you will get many emails from these anonymous people (the hurtful ones, not the good ones) because they are too cowardess to do it. I love your blog and your honesty. After all why be fake when it is YOUR blog about YOUR family? Jonah is so precious and you are doing a FABULOUS job with him.

Wonder Woman said...

Way To Go! My girls are 13 and 6,I was one of those moms who put them in front of the t.v to get things done, well they make all A's in school,so much for t.v rotting their brain,lol
Jonah is very blessed for the Lord to pick you two as his parents! As I know that you are blessed to have him.
Praying for you guys,
Michelle

Lisa said...

Good Job Patrice, Well said!!!! You are a GREAT mom! I love reading your blog and watching Johnah grow. We are praying for your family and healing for Jonah!
Lisa

Kristie said...

YOU GO GIRL!!!!! That's the spirit. People who try so hard to spread their negativity should be ashamed.
You are amazing and I am so glad you share your day to day feelings, thoughts, and activities about your family. You take care and remember everyday that you are such an amazing mom.

NickNonna said...

That is absolutely ridiculous. You do what you need to do for your son, just as I do for my kids. As an avid reader for many months, I love Jonah! My 3 year old daughter and I check every single day for pics and updates. Keep on keepin' on, mama. We are so proud of how far you and Jonah have come!

We4Kingz said...

Amen Sister!!! I have been reading your blog for awhile and you are such an inspiration to me. Jonah is just the cutest little thing and he is very blessed to have the parents he has.

Confessions Of A Working Mom said...

I whole-heartedly agree with your decision... gosh, is it a full moon or something, people seem to have gone wacko! You're the third or fourth blog I follow to get slammed with something so mean *this week*, and I also had to get rid of anonymous commenting!

You are an inspiration to us all, keep it up!

~Elizabeth
http://confessionsfromaworkingmom.blogspot.com

Ellie said...

OMG I can't believe someone would judge another mom, but especially one who goes through what you do every single day, based on the small tidbit of their lives they see on a blog. And BTW, I don't know a single mom who never ever lets their child under two watch tv. Not one. Including me. Jeez. When you are a SAHM, you do what you need to get through the day. As a SAHM, we are sacrificing so much, in order to raise our children ourselves. No one has a right to judge us, and what we need to do to get 5 minutes for ourselves.

Cristi said...

GOOD FOR YOU! I just never will understand some people. You and Jonah have a great day. Little Bear or no Little Bear. :)

Lacy said...

Patrice-
You never cease to amaze me! I cannot imgaine your daily struggles and am crushed that ANYONE would try to bring you down. You and your family are always in my thoughts and prayers. I hate that it's come to this for you and I am praying for those who have caused this. Praying for them because they need prayer. And by the way- your child is ADORABLE! Love HIM! :)

The Fisher Family said...

You courage continues to inspire & uplift - let the haters hate - you're so much better than that anyways!

How did anyone manage before these "super-moms" came along to tell us all the ways we are irreparably damaging our children??

:) just smile & move on...

Radar's Mom said...

Hey Patrice,

Don't know if you've read or heard of this book...

http://www.amazon.com/Bad-Mother-Chronicle-Calamities-Occasional/dp/0385527934/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1257513776&sr=1-1

Anyway, I thought it was a great read! At the beginning it talks a bit about how to be a "good father" the dad just really has to be present (you know, not run off with the secretary), but that the threshold of "good mother" is unattainable and that the harshest critics are other mothers! I, for one, love being a "bad mother" in that I make mistakes and take short cuts to survive as a single mother. It's good to laugh at our flaws and bloopers, and it will give our kids something to complain about when they get a little older... how very boring it would be if we all had "perfect mothers"! Uggh... What would I be if my mom didn't curse like a drunken sailor! Frankly, I pee on all the righteous people who judge mothers. I love my son. You love your son. We do everything with them in mind! Your road is a heck of a lot tougher than for most, so pat yourself on the bad and know that whatever your flaws, Jonah could not have landed himself a better mom if he'd had every mom in this world to choose from.

Hugs,
Christena

Amber said...

I am a longtime reader of your blog and first time commenter. I just want to let you know that you have tons of support and lots of people that admire you and your strength. Almost every night, me and my husband talk about you, Jonah, and how strong you are. You blow us away! God bless you and keep your head up.

Amber in Baton Rouge, LA

Sylithia said...

Awesome I am happy you are finally not allowing the negative anon commenters....you really should have done it sooner!
If people do not like how you parent to them I say GO AWAY! leave this mom in peace she is doing nothing to hurt her child. In fact the TV shows for kids these days ARE educational so Jonah will be just FINE!
Way to go Patrice you are keeping it real...life isn't all fluff and you are open and honest.

Deciduous Heather said...

Good for you. I have been a blogger for about a year and it seems that when one of the popular blogs starts getting negative comments, it officially means your blog has reached a whole 'nother level of popularity....that can be good and bad. If I were you, this would be the last time I would give any negative, hateful readers the justification of addressing them. I think you made a great choice by excluding anonymous.

As always your dedication to Jonah, your positive outlook, and your great writing is an inspiration to all of US....which is why I read, and I am sure why many others do as well. Keep being you....for YOU and JONAH are the ones that are true blessing to US. (((HUGS)))

~Heather in NC

p.s. I am sorry and angered that they hurt your feelings....

Mrs.Joe said...

Good for you Patrice, I don't see anyone on here being snotty now! I think you are a great mom and I aspire to be just like you!

Meredith said...

Patrice, don't let the turkeys get you down! You are doing a FABULOUS job and I thank you for sharing your highs, lows, and in-betweens.

Katie said...

No problem!! I read here daily, haven't commented a whole lot, but I enjoy your blog! Please don't let a few negative nellies who clearly need Christ in their life stop you!!

Anonymous- Maybe if you took a little time to watch childrens shows you'd know a little more about manners and how you treat others. Just a thought...

Michelle said...

You all rock! Don't let 'em get to you. And what's up with the Target hating? Sheesh! And I type this as my daughter watches Elmo's Potty Time ;)

Michelle Found said...

Sweetheart, you just keep right on doin' what you're doin'!!!!

If that "anonymous person" really disliked your blog, she wouldn't be returning to read your posts. Don't know why they feel they need to use hurtful words, but maybe "anonymous" keeps returning to read your blog because somehow, deep down, they might subconciously look up to you because you're so honest and open.

There is nothing wrong with you putting Jonah in front of Little Bear. My kids loved that show. Now, if you were putting him in front of Texas Chainsaw Massacre, then I might kindly suggest you do some re-thinking and find a better program. (haha)

I so much appreciate your COMPLETE HONESTY in this blog. My goodness, if the WORST thing you do is let your son watch Little Bear while you brush your teeth, then I wanna move to your State and be your neighbour!!!!

I always like leaving my name and blog address anyways on any comments.... that way, if anyone has a problem with what I've said, they can contact me directly.

Stay strong. God is definitely using you! Kiss that sweet babe for us!

~Michelle Found
Picton, Ontario, Canada
www.fiddlersfound.blogspot.com

settingmyselffree said...

Hey Patrice...I ran across your blog a while back. I love reading about Jonah and your family so much, that I passed your blog onto my daughter at college. (who watched t.v. before turning 2 year's old) No harm done here! She LOVES books, is the president of her universities honor program, AND will be studying @ Oxford next year. So keep on watching t.v. Jonah. You'll be graduating with honors! Keep on keeping it real Patrice!!

Custeph said...

I'm a faithful reader but I don't post often, but I am so mad right now after reading that. I may have been a mommy for 7 years now & have 3 kids, but you are still a hero of mine & a true role model. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about the way you parent Jonah. You are truly the BEST!

Michelle said...

You don't owe anyone an explanation for what you do with Jonah. You are his mom and you know what's best for him.

I've seen commenters like "Anonymous" on other mom blogger sites too. There are just some pathetic women out there who make themselves feel more important by bashing others. It's very telling that they don't want their identities known. I wonder if "Anonymous" even has kids.

I have 2 kids, and you encourage me with your blog. What you and Matt do to take care of Jonah is inspiring. When I'm having what I feel like is an overwhelming day, I think about what you have to go through, and it puts things in perspective. Thank you for sharing your story. God is using you to touch others.

starrchasers said...

I've got my GRRR on for that poster. GRRR.

You all are being prayed for every day here in Colorado. Stay strong, momma.

Lindsay said...

It's your blog and you can do what you want! I agree, I think people should OWN UP to what they say and stand behind it! You have put up with the negative people WAY too long, and I can't believe that people who don't agree with you still even take the time to read then. My son is 18 months and he thinks The Wiggles RULE! Guess I'm a bad parent too because I enjoy going to Target and my kid watches TV too..... Ha ha! Keep on keeping on Patrice, I respect you very much and love to hear your Jonah stories!

courtney said...

I rarely comment on your blog, but I read every day. You may be inspired by positive comments, BUT YOU inspire ME! You are a loving, devoted mom and have taught me not to take a moment with my kids for granted.

Sorry some dummy ruined your day. My suspicion is that that's what they were trying to do. You're right--it's cowardly! I've always wondered why if people don't like something written in a blog, then simply just don't read anymore!

Keep doing what you're doing--you're a great momma!

Erica McKnight said...

well said :)

we love you

Erica

Go East Memphis Mama said...

You tell them! Either that person doesn't have kids or is one of those super freaky granola over zealous moms who take everything to the extreme. If 15 minutes of Little Bear lets you eat lunch or take a shower then you go right ahead. You deserve it more than most of us! And I am so tired of people throwing that "nice Christian attitude" thing around. Yes, I am a Christian, YES I mess up all the time and say things I don't mean but it doesn't make me any less of a Christian. You are a GREAT mom and that person is a punk and a coward!

Whitney said...

I'm sorry, I had to laugh at this! Some people are just crazy! You are such an inspirational mom :) Keep up the hard work of caring for that beautiful little boy of yours. Who cares if Little Bear helps you out every now and then?! :)

Erin said...

Good for you Patrice. For the life of me I can't figure out why someone who claims to be bored by your posts would continue to read them.
What you and Matt do for and with your son is an inspiration, and I'm glad that you continue to share Jonah with us.
I wonder if "anonymous" knows that in the time she took to research the AAPs TV guidlines for infants, she could have taught her child American Sign Language. She's supermom after all, right?

Ellen said...

I totally agree with you and my blood is boiling now because of stupid people like that poster! Some people can not feel good about themselves unless they are bashing other people! We can all see, that you are a great parent to Jonah! You obviously spend more time with him then most parents do! Please try not to let this creep get to you! I love your blog! I think your doing an expectional job raising Jonah! Just why do people read blogs they don't like or agree with? TV does not ruin children! Kids can learn from tv too! UGH...I love your blog the way it is, please don't stop writing stuff the way you do because of some jerks who can't control themselves! Hang in there! And know your doing a great job with Jonah!!

Linda said...

I am so proud of you. Never let negative people get to you, it's just a waste of time and energy. Forget this anonymous $$s and just remember you were hand picked by God to take care of your very, very special son. If this person could just spend one day with you, and see all that you do, they would change their mind and maybe make them a better person. Taking care of an EB baby has to be one of the most difficult jobs ever. Take care and remember God loves you and Jonut. Love Leah's Nana

Patty said...

I love you and your parenting and your blogging. Jonah is VERY lucky to have you and you are VERY lucky to have him. You are doing a wonderful job and continue what you are doing. I see nothing wrong with anything you've posted and .....may God continue to bless your family.

Tj and Chelse said...

Amen, sister!

Leslie said...

Obviously, this person doesn't have children or is freakin Mary Poppins. I have an 18 month old who (gasp) loves Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. It is nice to know that while I'm cooking dinner, cleaning house or whatever I need to get done, he can watch Mickey. It's not like he's in front of the TV all day but Moms have to get stuff done. Jerks like this make me so mad with their holier than thou parenting skills. Sheesh!

Aiden's Mommy said...

Good for you, you tell them! That's so rude for people to waste their time being hateful for no reason. They don't have to read your blog so why do they get offended by your life. I, on the other hand, completely admire you and think that you are a fabulous mom. I love reading your blog and seeing adorable Jonah. Keep it up!! :)

Trace Car Driver said...

you tell em patrice!! i hate that you have to deal with those crazy people. i agree 100% with everything you said. and guess what? i also give my 9 month old tea now and then, and i also let him and his 2 1/2 yo brother watch nick jr all the time. and i think my oldest is smarter b/c of it! just like they say "it's like pre-school, on tv!" who's against that? :o) you are doing a great job. just wanted you to know that i prayed for baby j earlier this morning. and will continue to do so! keep shining your light. and keep blogging. we love you!

southern love and prayers from alabama!

Melanie said...

Hi, So sorry you have to go through this people can be so cruel! Don't let this ruin your day! I have an Autistic daughter who is 9 years old and have had to go through criticism about her behavior problems. She Loves TV and sometimes it's the only thing that calms her when she is having a rough day! She still loves all of the preschool shows and LOVES Little Einsteins and Dora and if that's what it takes to calm her when she is overstimulated or having a bad day then for my own sanity and hers I will pop in a dvd. Don't worry about what others think. You have to do what works for you and your family and to heck with what these cruel people that have no clue what you have to endure everyday! Jonah is a very blessed Little boy! You are an Awesome mom to him and an inspiration to me as a mom! Keep up the good work! You have my love prayer and Support! Melanie

Zack Troop said...

Hey Patrice,
Zack has been a life long tv watching video game player, he also learned to read at 3.5 and in first grade has the highest scores in EVERYTHING! He is an incredible well rounded kid, that is happy and active when his body allows, he has friends and is an over all good kid, as I am sure Jonah will be.
You are an EB momma, and eb mommas are like no other mommas. We are made of different stuff, we are just plain some of the best mommas on the planet.

Thomas and Jamie said...

OH my goodness. Yeah, Jonut's brain's gonna rot from Little Bear and his teeth are gonna rot from the sweet tea. Okay. That makes sense. How stupid. (And I REALLY don't like to use that word, but really, it's just STUPID!) I'd like for anyone who is criticizing how anyone dealing with what you're dealing with to get down off their freaking high horse and walk a mile in your shoes. Patrice, I put my son in front of Curious George when I get home from work sometimes so that I can get his dinner ready quicker. Sometimes, you know what, I even put it on because it'll keep him quiet. Horrible? Maybe. NATURAL? NORMAL? DUH! Ugh...seriously. Keep it up honey! (Oh and btw...we love our sweet tea just like that in Texas too!!!)

Heather said...

Excellently put, Patrice! You have your hands full enough without having to deal with all of that. Keep being the amazing mom you are to Jonah!

Tracey said...

I think you are doing the right thing. Why does anyone have the right to judge you if they have not walked in your shoes. YOu are doing a fabulous job with Jonah and his sweet smiling face prove it. There are far worse things that a child can do than watch some tv. I have often let my children watch a few minutes of tv to take a shower, cook dinner, etc. I loved the sweet tea post...it is my favorite. :-)

Island Jack's Travel said...

Way to go Patrice! That person IS a COWARD who apparently has NO LIFE and only wants to bring people down. What a LOSER! I will pray for Anonymous because he/she obviously has bigger issues that need addressing.

As for TV, my kids loved Sesame Street. Yes, I used this show as a babysitter so I could get chores done (I was SUCH a "bad" Mom). One day I heard Johanna (about 2 years old) mumbling something over and over to herself. I quietly came up behind her to listen. She was saying the Pledge of Allegiance (correctly I might add!) over and over. She had learned it on Sesame Street. Three Cheers for a great kid's TV show that taught my daughter something important ... love and respect for her country.

Patrice, you and Matt are doing an EXCELLENT JOB of being GREAT PARENTS to your dear Jonah. We are all very proud of you!

Janet

Lari said...

Oh Patrice! I'm so sorry random people feel the need to judge...sigh... You're doing such a great job w/ Jonah. He is just so sweet. I wish we lived closer so he and my little guy could be buddies. Hang in there! BTW I have 4 boys and they've all watched their fair share of TV (gasp!) They're smart and funny and just fine. My 6 yo loves tea and when he was a toddler I'd catch him guzzling my Diet Coke when I wasn't watching...he'd be drinking it as fast as he could b/c he knew he wasn't supposed to have it LOL!

The Alger Family said...

Ugh, what is WRONG with some people?? You go Patrice! Life is too short to waste it on reading comments from negative, jealous (and did I forget to mention PATHETIC) people like that!

Keep up the good work! You are amazing!

Chiles300 said...

well said, Patrice!

mandy_m07 said...

Patrice, I used to comment anonymously, but I will no more. ha ha :) You are an amazing mom! Your blogging has taught me so many lessons. I sincerely love reading about you all and Jonah every single day. I am off at college while my boyfriend still lives in my hometown, and every night he asks how Jonah is doing. By the way, he loves your sweet tea recipe because he thinks I should add more sugar when I make it. Seriously though, thank you for being who you are, and stay strong. I do not react well with this kind of behavior myself, but you obviously have so many people who love and care about you so don't let it get to you. Have a great day!

Ronda said...

Good for you Patrice! You are Jonah's mom, your instincts are best! All moms need time to do the most basic things for themselves, so don't feel guilty or let anyone else make you feel guilty about that. TV is not going to make Jonah anti-social or have trouble making friends. I love your blog, keep writing and doing your best. Jonah's got a great mom!

Misty said...

So sorry for the abuse that you have been dealing with in addition to your daily stressors. It's tough to be doing what you feel is right and then be chastised and ridiculed by mean, ugly people...been there, too. However, I am so thankful that you recognize that there are so many of us out here who want to encourage and support you - you get YOU time any way you have to (knowing that NONE of your choices are going to risk the health or safety of Jonah at any time...we KNOW how very much you love him. And he deserves to know a little alone time, too...believe it or not, it does them good, and when something distracts them for a bit - well that's even better! :) And by the way - lovin' that sweet tea post...glad that Jonah is his Momma's boy! YUM! :)

Good for you!

jord,ali,hal,kam and grae too! said...

never. never. never allow anyone to judge you. nobody has any clue what you face day to day even if they have a child with the same condition...your situation is still different. Different house, different husband, different way to cope with life. The fact that you get out of bed every day is an inspiration and when i moan about not getting a full nights sleep with my little 9 mo old who is healthy and then i read your blog it grounds me...your anger is justified and don't ever let anyone make you feel bad for who you are or how you live your life. you have an amazing family and are an amazing mother! It's easy for people to judge...but there will be a day when they are humbled. I went through a nasty divorce and custody battle and lost friends and everyone it seemed felt they were wiser than me and wanted to comment behind my back on my life. You just have to move forward...

madelyn said...

Stand firm in your beliefs! I also don't know why people can't just walk away from your blog if they don't agree with it. I have a medically fragile child who watched too much TV before age 2 (according to the guidelines for 'typical' children) and is just fine now at age 8. I agree with you about how you spend your time with Jonah! Until you've walked in our shoes..... So grab some sweet tea, turn on Little Bear, and enjoy your day :) I

Amanda said...

Good for you for standing up for yourself! It's so sad that some people have to bash other people just to get some enjoyment in their life. Makes me glad no one but my family ever reads my blog! At least I know that I won't ever have to deal with people like that. :-)

As for TV, I'm a working mom and, for most of the 11 years we've been married, my husband has had to work two jobs. It's not fun, but it's just our life right now. Because of that, the only time I can ever get anything done around the house is in the evenings. And with no husband around to help with the kids, that TV has been a lifesaver more than once with my two kids. Luckily, they are now very smart, healthy children who haven't had any problems with their development at all. Moms just have to do what they have to do to survive and if TV helps you survive, then go for it! There's nothing wrong with that!

Courtney said...

Wow. I am just so sorry that you have to read such nasty comments like that. And to post them annonymous, what a coward she/he is. I used to post annonmymous, just because I didn't have a gmail account, but I created one just for Jonah! I love that boy and have been praying for him for along time. By the way, I live in GA and I love the picture of Jonah with his sweet tea!! My son loves some sweet tea too! And I also want to just say that I know you have some tough days, but I admire you for all you do for Jonah. And most of us all know that you do what is best for Jonah at all times, even if you do let him watch TV :) Personally I have no problem with the TV. Continue to stay strong!

~Courtney Raines

Milles Family said...

You rock Patrice!! :)

You know...even though you are a
imperfect Christian!!! ;)

Some people are just so silly!

Thanks for being such a honest, humorous and Target-loving mama!

Maryellen said...

Patrice - I don't have children but just reading your blog and what you go through each day for Jonah is amazing ! You ARE a wonderful Mom. You lovingly sacrifice all for him. And to you I know it is not a sacrifice. He is such a precious little joy. I love seeing his photos. Anyone with any common sense would certainly realize that tv would be the very least of Jonah's struggles in this life. If that tv brings you a few moments and brings Jonah comfort that it is important. Keep moving forward - please have no doubt in yourself at what kind of Mom you are. It is so very evident to us all !
Blessings to you and sweet little Jonah !

Raising Arrows said...

Hey Target Mom, YOU ROCK!
I feel sorry for the person who wrote that and his/her children! What a rotten human being to be so judgemental of another parent's harmless choices. That is what is wrong with most "Christians"
If I remember correctly, my "Christian" Bible states "Judge not lest you be judged".

I rest my case :)

Amanda said...

You make me want to be a better mom. You remind me of patience. I am shaking, I am so mad about this poster.

Darcy said...

I am SO so sorry that you have to go through this, it really breaks my heart. I was tearing up while I was reading the anonymous comment...... What a heartless..... person. There is nothing NOTHING wrong with tv for the kids...... what the anonymous person didnt add is kids under the age of 2, 2 hours or less according to the academy of pediatrics...... You HAVE to take time to yourself or you may go insane!

Mandy and Russel said...

I'd be interested to know how many EB kids this "Anonymous" is raising. Might be singing a different tune if they actually had any idea what they are talking about.

ANYWAY... I'm so sorry. I am a very sensitive person myself and no matter how I've tried I've never been one who "doesn't care what people say".

I'm a new mommy also and it is such a slap in the face when you dedicate your whole life to being a good mother and someone with nothing better to do comes along and criticizes you for the one or two things you do for yourself!! And it's not like you are bar hopping, you are blogging!

How about uplifting you and encouraging you in the 30 million things you do for your son on any given day!!?

And what kind of an insult is "Target Mom"? :) haha

I'm sorry, this obviously brings out the worst in me too.

SO glad you aren't going to stop blogging, I love reading your updates!


Mandy

P.S. To each their own but for what it's worth myself and my 3 siblings all grew up watching TV (and lots of it, more than I will allow mine to watch) and we are all 4 college educated, productive human beings :)

Stacey said...

Now, in my opinion, no one in their right mind is anti-Target...so they must be nuts! No, I'm just kidding but I do think you are incredible! A head ache to the devil! That's why he shows up from time to time! (Smiling) You are truly one who daily, pursues, overtakes and recovers all the spoils of the day and makes them blessings to one precious Jonah! All of us love your blog and look forward to hearing from you. No one has forced you to share anything and that's the beauty of it! You have opened up and said, "I'm your friend" as well. If God be for you, who can be against you? Keep walking!

Aaron Melda said...

WELL SAID!!!! Hopefully they will ALL go to another blog! Keep your head up!
Jenn

Julia said...

If there is one thing I have learned in the 16 weeks that I have been a mother, is that you should never judged another mother by the way she cares for her kids. You have never walked in her shoes, just like she has never walked in your shoes. I have a preemie who can be a difficult baby and I have done so many things that I am sure are not "parenting by the book". That does not make any of us bad mothers, in fact I think it makes us better mothers. We know what works for our children and what works for us...because a mother without her sanity is a thousand times worse then a baby sitting in front of the TV.

Your blog is the very first blog I visit every single day. I admire you strength,courage, tenacity, and dedication to your son. You are a WONDERFUL mother!

Janis said...

You go Patrice! My daughter and I have been long time lurkers but this is my first comment. You are an awesome mom! Jonah is absolutely adorable and we love your blog!

Jorrylin said...

I am proud of you for standing up to anonymous! I was so afraid you would say that you were going to stop blogging. I read your blog every day, and I feel like your family has become an important part of mine. You are an incredible encouragement to me. If I could no longer see how you are doing I would feel like something was missing. I am proud of you, Patrice.

Tracie said...

Well, now that I'm signed up...I'm sorry you have to put up with people like that. For the record, I am from South Georgia and all 4 of my kids were drinking sweet tea at 6 months (and breasfed, what a combination) and have watched t.v. since infancy. 3 out of 4 are top of their class, with my last well on her way once she starts school! Point is...tv isn't the devil. Just keep your chin up and know in your heart that you ARE a wonderful mom. Jonah is a very big part of so many people's lives. Even my dh asks about him often. ((((hugs))))

piglet63699 said...

You raise Johan the way you feel is right, he is your son and therefore you make the choices and I think you are doing a fantastic job. My son watched tv at an early age and he is now 4 and very smart. The only problem I am having with tv at the moment is all the commercials that come on I have to hear how we need that or I want that. I do not think tv ruins your kid unless that is all they do, if they sit and watch tv for hours and get no exercise or other interaction then I feel it is bad, but I know that is not the case with you and Jonah. You are a wonderful mother and I thank you for sharing your journey through life and motherhood. You are making a difference. :)

Leia

Lis said...

Go GIRL! If they have something to say that is negative then they need to OWN IT! You are an awesome parent and I admire, respect, and try to encourage you! I look at your blog every single day to check on the little one.. Love you!

maurerjen said...

Bleck. People are jerks. He/She sounds like they were just trying to get a rise out of you. You're an awesome Mom - one whom I greatly admire.

NJordan30 said...

I have been following your blog for awhile now, and I have never commented. I just wanted to take a second to encourage you and support you in all that you do on a daily basis. You are perhaps one of the strongest people that I know!! Keep doing what you are doing!! With God's strength, you can do it!!

Karen said...

So well said! You are a great mom and you are doing a wonderful job!

These people are cowards if they cannot put a name to their comments! They have no idea what you are going through on a daily basis.

I have 10 kids and I have propped all of them is front of the TV to get things done too! My oldest is 23 and is an extremely bright person. In College he rarely studied for anything and made all A's.

Target is my favorite store too and I usually get there at least once a week and sometimes twice. If these people don't want to hear about what you have to write then they should just move on!

Keep on doing what you are doing and be encouraged!

Blessings,
Karen

Jessie said...

Yeah for you! i don't get why moms are so critical of each other! breast vs bottle feed, work vs stay home, organic vs fast food, public school vs homeschool. why can't everyone just support the other one's decisions? Being a MOM is hard! Why can't we all just respect that about each other. My oldest came out of womb and turned his head to the TV. He is not ADHD and extremely smart. I'd put both of my homeschool TV watchers up against anyone elses kid and I promise you this: there will be those they are smarter than and there will be some that are smarter than him. Everyone needs to realize we are all doing our best to raise our children in the best way we know how!
Yeah for you Mom! You rock!

Clarke Life said...

You've got to be kidding me! How dare someone critize a mother for letting their child watch TV for a short while. Patrice- You are an amazing person and one of the best mom's I know of. You give 110% in catering to your sons needs. I've followed your blog since Jonah was born. I can only count maybe 3 or 4 posts where you had a date with your husband or an outing without Jonah. He is your life and you nurture and take care of your special needs child 24/7. You very seldom get a break and I commend you for that. You are an amazing person of God and I look at you for guidance and strength. Please don't let this stupid anonoymous coward make you think any less of yourself.

April

Kiley said...

Let me say that my kids watch TV ALL THE TIME!!! I am not ashamed of it at all. My daughter, who now is 6 1/2 watched T.V. probably all day. And guess, what, she ended up skipping a grade in school. As for what the AAP says. Unless they have children themselves, then they need to stop worrying so much about how much Sesame Street or Dora the Explorer a child watches and focus more on other pressing issues. A parent has to do what they have to do and should never be judged or feel ashamed for doing so. I say, GO FOR IT!!!!

Sincerely
Kiley Rodrigues
Rhode Island

Him and Her said...

look at all these ^^ people that love you and your sweet family!! a-may-zing, right?! I know you know how wonderful it is, i don't have to tell you that. I just love seeing love, haha!
God is good all the time!

SkodaFun said...

So sad that others must criticize. Staying at home with a child is hard work and I would challenge anyone who disagrees to trade places for a day. Getting out of the house is a necessity for our sanity. I respect all of the hard work you do for your son. Never doubt YOUR choices.

Crysgoss said...

Sorry that some people can be so cruel and immature. We love you guys!

Jennifer said...

I'm not someone who comments often, but had to in this case. I find it sad, sad, sad that someone has nothing better to do than steal your joy. What's even worse is the fact that anonymous is so cowardly. I find your blog so inspiring. Your faith in God makes me re-examine my trust in Him everytime I read your blog. Jonah is ADORABLE and he has two of the best parents around! Don't let this cowardly person take anything away from you!

Katherine said...

I think you are fantastic. I love reading about Jonah and his triumphs and will continue to pray. I have shared your story and blog with my nursing program in the hopes that children can be diagnosed immediatly and not have more damage done. I will continue to pray and let others know about EB. There is a new generation of nurses that will be educated about EB in Northeest Arkansas. My nursing of peds professor is incorporating it into her curriculum. Keep blogging a out what you want and raising sweet Noah in Gods light

Molly said...

You are an ANGEL of a mother. Don't for ONE SECOND let some psycho who thinks they know how to be a mother make you feel bad about yourself. I've had crazies come to my blog before. It's ridiculous the way these people spend their time discouraging people who are hurting instead of ENCOURAGING them. You are a wonderful mother and don't let anyone make you think otherwise.

barefootRhys said...

i read, but i never say anything. i'm glad to know i'm not the only one who gets so upset at being judged about what i choose to do or not do with lia. jonah is very special to have you. watching a little tv (or a lot) won't hurt him, and it buys you a precious few minutes of time to care for yourself.

peace,
rhys

Buckles Family said...

Some people are just unbelievable!! There is NOTHING wrong with letting Jonah watch some t.v. It almost sounded like he/she doesn't have children of their own, and they were just quoting a website. Some programs are actually very educational and will not harm your child in the least! Also, the person who posted doesn't understand AT ALL what it means to have a child with special needs. They don't understand that it is very rare for you to get out at all, so when you do, even a trip to Target is exciting! Many of us "get" that. Please try not to worry about hateful people that have nothing better to do with their time than to write hurtful things in your guestbook instead of trying to lift you up. As you know, most of us want to support you and keep your family in our prayers.

Toni said...

People really need to keep their views to themselves if they're going to be offensive. Raise your kids how you want RUDE COMMENTER. It is Patrice's choice how much tv that Jonah watches, not some organizations.

Gina said...

Patrice, you Are surrounded by friends. You have been handed a tough row to hoe and you are doing great. You are a loving and caring wife and mother who is very consientious. I have three childre 12,10 and 2. My girls are honor roll students, they are well adjusted and well behaved young ladies and they grew up on "Little Bear". All moms need a break and an age apropriate video never killed anyone. Don't sweat this.

Karen said...

I have seen some of the real emotional hurt that these "flamers" or "trolls" can do, so you are definitely doing the right thing by requiring a sign-in. If they still get through, just delete without reading--because trying to find new ways to hurt is their hobby and when they get an actual reply, that is like hitting the jackpot to them. I have just been too lazy to retrieve my forgotten Google password, but have done it now.

I think you are an awesome mother who knows better than anyone else in the world how to take care of her precious son!!

Kristen said...

Wow...the nerve of some people! For various reasons, my kids watch more TV than I would like to own up to. However, my 2 year old is so stinkin smart. Among many, many things, she can count backwards (as well as forwards), spell her name (and a few other words), can count in Spanish and knows lots of other Spanish words, is outgoing and very social...yeah, I could go on and on. When you are actively engaged in the daily going ons of your children, I don't care what any "professional opinion" is, you're doing just fine. You're a better parent than most and doing the absolute best you can. Sorry some are to self-absorbed to see that.

boltefamily said...

I recently had to do the same thing on my blog. I was getting a lot of awful stuff from anonymous and like you as much as I would just like to delete it and forget it...I stew on it and it wrecks my day. I am sorry you have been targeted too!

Megan said...

Patrice,

I try to comment often, especially when I see a smiling Jonut, and I love when his little face looks so clear and rosy (and not from the EB, from the flush of a happy baby!). I post on days that you're having a tough time and need encouragement, but I think you need as much encouragement on the good days too.

I just want you to know that you are such an amazing, Christian example to me of what it means to have continued faith through difficult times. Reading about your family and Jonah means a lot to me (even though I'm a stranger), because I love rooting for you!

My mother's a child psychologist and let me watch television, and eventually play games on the computer, and all that electronic stimulation didn't rot my brain.

You are an INCREDIBLE mother. I know that in my heart. And I love Target and Chic-fil-a, and I own that!

STAY STRONG!

momma said...

i don't comment much, but like many of the others, i read every day. my family prays for jonah every morning and when he wasn't eating, jonah's name was on the prayer board in my daughter's classroom and in the prayer bag in my son's.

one other commentor mentioned that the AAP can't make up it's mind about how to have our children sleep. i agree - God gave jonah to you and matt and it's up to you and matt to decide what is best for jonah. and from reading what is just a glimpse of what your life is like, a few minutes of time to yourself (whether at target or with jonah watching tv) is what's best sometimes.

patrice, you are loved and in my daily prayers!!!

Debeez Blog said...

Good for you! You were a lot nicer than I would have been!

The Sierra Family said...

good for you sweetie!!! i'm so sorry some people are just ridiculous and that affects you so much. just remember for every one nasty anon poster, there are 100 of us who love you and matt and jonah, even though we've never met you!!

Lisa said...

Good for you!!!.

Mrs. JKPeterson said...

Jonah Rocks!

Thanks for sharing your blog,and your journey.


Blessings

Jen Burns said...

I was half way through your post thinking, I'm gonna comment suggesting she not accept anonymous comments anymore, and then I read you already made that choice. Good for you, your are 100% right and try to remember, these negative people could just be some punk kid without the light of Christ and they run around from blog to blog trying to hurt people. It is sad. I simply love hearing about Jonah and how much you love him and all the wonderful things you do together and the struggles you survive through God's grace. YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION!!

Krystal said...

Just like another commenter (and probably more - I only read the first few), my kids have watched TV, probably too much, and are indeed both very, very intelligent. Do what ya gotta do!!!

Love the "sweet tea" recipe - just like I like it. My southern roots are showing!

Praying for all of you!

Wanda said...

Wow!!! I tried to leave a message at 5:30am this morning, but did not have time to set up my name, so here I am & the # of comments have more than tripled..there were 61 comments at 5:30--so you can tell by the comments that we are all proud to support you & your family.

Keep up the good work, give Jonah all the sweet tea you want to, let him watch tv & love him with all your heart. You are his mommie & Matt is his daddy & the 2 of you know & do what is best for him--I can tell by your posts that Jonah is what makes your world go around & the love you have for him is what matters.

I love you & your family

Krystal said...

P.S. I'm more of a Wal-Mart girl myself, but Target sometimes comes through for me swimmingly. I don't think you should listen to anyone who knocks you for doing errands at your favorite store when you get the chance to get out. I mean, a girl's gotta have some fun, not to mention buying things required for a reasonable life (TP, food, the basics).

Have a great day!!!!

Karen said...

Good for you! You've got enough to deal with.

Sanborn Family said...

You go girl!!! Wonderful post!

Cristin said...

AMEN!!! PREACH IT SISTER!

Kristen said...

You are Loved.

Katherine @ Grass Stains said...

I would like to "anonymously" kick that person's ass.

dgayle said...

Go Patrice!!! Have they walked in your shoes (if today is even a day you got to put your shoes on). I follow your blog daily and pray for you daily.
(by the way, I go to church with Mindy Doughtie). That anonymous person probably has a "nanny".
You are doing everything a mother should and would do. Thank you for sharing the good, the bad and everything in between.

rosemarykitchen said...

Love you Pat Rice.
~Leigh Ann

Corby and Lauren said...

As you know, I don't even know you, and I got so fired up reading that comment. I just don't understand why they even read your blog! You already know this too.... but you are such a wonderful mom to Jonah. I love reading about your days with him, and I pray for you often. I can't imagine how exhausted you must be (I become a bit of a nightmare with no sleep too!), and I know nothing perks me up more than a trip to Target!!! :) We go at least 3 times a week (not a list-maker... so I regularly forget things!).

bn said...

To anonymous:
SHUT THE FRIDAY UP, COWARD!!
That being said, I have never posted but felt that I needed to today. I have followed your blog for only a month. From what I have seen you are a great mother. You share the gift of jonut with all of us. You share everything, not just the good things. It takes a strong person to blog openly from the heart.


God bless you!!

Jessi said...

You tell them! If they don't like it, don't come read it. Goodness.
It's evident from all these other comments you have LOTS of loving, loyal readers and prayer warriors who LOVE everything about you and your family.
You're an awesome mom...I can see that through your blog but even it I never read your blog, knowing you back when we were younger would be enough for me to know you love your God and family above anything...a little tv doesn't change that.
I pray for you all often and *have* to read your blog everyday to check in on your sweet boy.
Great job being a mom and putting those negative commenters in their place!

otherwise known as mom said...

very eloquently stated....you do not deserve their abuse. I appreciate too that you did not stoop to their tactics by being hurtful or hateful toward them. It shows your character that you can respond in a godly fashion.

pcoakley2 said...

I read your blog daily and have made EB a cause on Facebook; the committment you make everyday, in every way for your beautiful son shines thru in your every word.

Having a child with special challenges can be isolating for both the parent and the child and if TV can provide destraction, interaction and smiles then find the remote!

I watched a video demonstration of bandage change for a EB child and we have no idea what it must be like with Jonah being a wiggly little guy. The attention needed for each step of the multi-step process and how important that the bandages to be applied just so...Patrice you and hubby are just amazing! and Jonah...you rock! Sweet, Sweet Jonah!!

"Mean" people everywhere; unless you've walked in the other person's shoes...zip your lips and rest your typing fingers!

Misty said...

Sweetie don't you for one minute think another thing about the cowards who say these things. You are a GREAT mother, sweet tea, tv and all!!!!! My kids both drink sweet tea (one is almost 3 and the other is 7 months) and both of them watch TV! Most likely this person doesn't have children of thier own. I admire your motherhood. I don't think I could do what you do on a day to day basis. God is not going to give you anything you can't handle but apparently he has a whole lot of faith in you to give you such an important role in Jonah's life. Bless you sweet one and keep your eyes on the things above!!! PS Jonah is so adorable!!

~Ashlea~ said...

Amen sister!!!!!!!!!!
I've come to realize that most people who question my "christian ways" are not christians themselves and have no idea what they are even talking about.

I don't know why people read a blog they disagree with and then take the time to post ugly comments. Do they really not have anything better to do?

This is YOUR blog, YOUR thoughts, YOUR life! YOU do what's best for YOUR child, and other people should worry about their own kids. (God help any children that Anonymous may have!)

Some people just need to learn that if you don't like what you are reading,
CLICK THE EXIT BUTTON AND GO READ SOMETHING ELSE.

This christian (not perfect, just forgiven) will be praying for your family!

Charisa said...

Stay strong! Don't let the Meanies ruin your day! I always enjoy reading your site!

Little Dude's Mama said...

Good. For. You.
TGIF!
xx&oo-

Eaton Party of Five said...

YOU ROCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Toni :O) said...

Right on Sista! You hit the nail on the head and I'm sorry you have to deal with ugly comments. Glad you took away the anonymous listing...it's just not worth your sanity to have to read such hurtful things. I love your blog, I love and feel blessed that I can pray for your sweet Jonut and family. You are doing an AMAZING job and NO ONE can criticize you until they have walked in your shoes. You amaze, inspire and make me laugh every day and for that, I am thankful. Keep on doing your best work and living your best life...I love you all the more for it and even if I don't know you personally, I feel like I do. Hugs to you for strength and support!! :O)

Jill said...

My mom put me in front of the TV when I was a baby and thanks to Sesame Street I could talk earlier, and I was counting to 10 in french and spanish at age 3. I think certain programs actually make kids smarter! Patrice, I wish you were my friend IRL because you seem so cool, caring and down to earth. I'm sorry people are mean enough to try to get under your skin-if I were you I would have gotten upset too-that's the sensitive in me. But please know that I enjoy reading your blog everyday and there are so many of us here praying and rooting for you and your family!! We Love you!!

stiner0305 said...

first of all you are a strong beautiful person! i don't post very often but i still love to read your blog. to who ever was that anonymous person either they have never had a baby and they don't understand the mind numbing everyday stuff that we deal with. and yeah a trip to target can seem like winning the lotto at times. lol. i will turn on the tv/movie for my 3 kids so i can have 10 mins to myself, does it kill them no, do they watch tv all day? no. so go ahead let little jonah watch tv, it won't hurt him any

Lindsey said...

I just LOVE *sarcasm, anyone?* how the anon poster uses the term "Target Mom" like it's a racial slur or something. Is that supposed to hurt your feelings? Its as benign as calling someone a "clean freak" or a "poopyhead".
Target, TV, and sweet tea - three of the most EVIL things I can think of. LOL. If they are so bad, please, I will descend into the depths of hell WILLINGLY, and take my entire family with me.

Kristin said...

I have been reading your blog for several months now. I am daily encouraged by your faith, your stamina, and your love of Jonah. I love the fact that you have blocked "anonymous" from further harassment. We'll figure out who it is anyway, when her kid is the next Einstein, since he never watched t.v. or drink sweet tea.

thejarvii said...

Well Said!

Thank you for your honesty and openness. Really. You have no idea how much your blog posts mean to so many people, and how uplifted we are by seeing a glimpse into you day to day life. It seems mundane to you, yet we hang on every word!

I'm sorry for all those lamo's who are so miserable with their own lives that they try to negatively impact everyone else's lives. To them, I say Pbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbft.

I am formerly Jenny J in Ca, but now I will be revealing my real identity. =)

Kristi J said...

Patrice, I am so sorry you are getting such negative comments. You come across as a beautiful, funny, loving person, and when it comes to Jonah, I have no doubt what an extraordinary mother you are! I love reading your posts, and have loved watching your sweet boy grow and benefit from such amazing parents. And while I hate the idea of TV replacing my own interaction with my children, sometimes Noggin is a good thing, entertaining my little ones so I can get some household errands done.

Don't you worry, you are doing a great job!

Jessica said...

YOU GO GIRLFRIEND! Now go get a glass of sweet tea and relax. Some people are just retarded!
and yes I just said retarded.

{Oops that probably wasn't very Christian-like}

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