This comment was just posted by Anonymous:
Hey mom! That's not very "christian" of you to tell me to get a life. Maybe you need to get one too besides going to Target every chance you can get and then blogging endlessly about it!!! If you don't like my comments about T.V. then maybe you will listen to the American Academy of Pediatrics and what they say about children under 2 watching T.V. (see below)The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that kids under 2 years old not watch ANY (hear that Target mom!) TV and that those older than 2 watch no more than 1 to 2 hours a day of quality programming.The first 2 years of life are considered a critical time for brain development. TV and other electronic media can get in the way of exploring, playing, and interacting with parents and others, which encourages learning and healthy physical and social development.
I'm sorry if my comment seemed not "christian," although I still don't really know what that means. All a Christian is is an imperfect being saved by grace in Christ. And I need more grace and forgiveness than most. I don't think I've been shy about admitting that fact.
On the other hand, I am ALL DONE with people judging my parenting and acting like they "know" what kind of mother I am based on what I choose to share here on my blog. Most mothers can skip baths, leave their kids in their pajamas all day, don't have to do two hour dressing changes DAILY, and get a small break when their kids close their eyes (as opposed to having to use every nap as an opportunity to struggle to feed your child). If I need to put Jonah in front of the TV to brush my teeth or eat my lunch or fold the laundry, I am going to put him in front of the TV... you know, horribly brain-rotting television like Little Bear. Please do not act like you know how I engage, interact with, or educate my child. I spend more quality time with Jonah than about 99% of parents... and I don't take a moment of it for granted. I love it. I live for it. I do anything and everything for him. And God gives me the strength, patience, and perseverance to do it day after day after day. I wish you could be here to see what a day is like for us. Then you might be a little slower to "speak."
And obviously you are ashamed of what you have to say (or at least the way you are going about saying it) because you continue to post as Anonymous. I loved the way one reader said it, "If you have an opinion, then OWN IT."
I have TWO email addresses on my sidebar where you can contact me. I would appreciate you using mine instead of Jonah's since his should be reserved for encouragement. What a coward you are! YOU are the one who should be ashamed.
To everyone else:
So many of you post as Anonymous, and you are so uplifting, so encouraging, so completely wonderful. But I cannot take comments from the cowards ANY longer. They bring out the demon in me. They make me so angry I shake. They ruin my day. They drive me nuts. I'm home all day long trying to take care of Jonah as best I can. I have very few hobbies; very little time for non-Jonah things. But the blog is a hobby that I enjoy. It's meant to be positive - sometimes happy, sometimes sad, sometimes funny, sometimes sarcastic, sometimes completely superficial - but never mean or hateful. It was started for Gabe. I continue it for Jonah. It's mostly for my family and a scrapbook for my boys. It's my blog.
And I need it to be a good thing. For me. For my family.
I am no longer allowing anonymous comments. This is not the first instance where people have abused that they can post comments faceless... with no accountability, no consequence. They can abuse innocent people for whatever reason. I don't get it. I don't get people who spend their time reading blogs they don't agree with just to hurt the people who write them. I don't get it. I don't get why they are so angry or jealous or hopeless or sad that they have to take their time to bring down other people.
And I would say I'll just delete them and move on, but I know, emotionally, I just can't take it. My skin is too thin. My heart is too fragile. My brain is too tired.
So please, please, if you are a regular positive poster who posts as Anonymous, I'm begging you to take the time to register with gmail or post with an ID. I still want to hear from you! You warm my heart. You make me feel like I'm surrounded by friends... even when I'm all by myself. You make me excited that there are positive people in the world who will love on and care for Jonah, despite his outward appearance. I hope you stay!
And for all the haters, feel free to email me if you'd like to have an open discussion about something you disagree with. You don't need to hide. If you feel so strongly enough about something you feel the need to comment, then email me. If you have an opinion, OWN IT!
Thank you to the 99.5% of you who lift us up and encourage us every day. We thank God for you!