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UPDATE: Jonah slept from 10:15 pm until 6:15 this morning. I did have to get up once and do some quick butt-patting at 4:30, but he immediately went back to sleep. I was up with him for an hour at 6:15, and now he's back fast asleep. And I was so brave. I only went up when I heard him fussing (well, not counting the three or four times I checked on him between the time he went to bed and the time I did). So anyway, I definitely consider this first night a success. I like how dark it is in his room, and he seems to fall asleep better rocking in the glider than in the rocking chair we have downstairs (probably a lot less distraction). I played soft music on the CD player, turned on is mobile for him, and had a small fan (air circulator), a tower fan, and the ceiling fan on for noise and to cool it down. It feels about ten degrees hotter up there than it is down here, so I didn't want him to overheat. It seems he slept (is sleeping) really well. (But in the nature of Jonah, you can never get too excited about the first time at anything... he's fighting his bottles some again and is not loving the squash as much as he did at first either. So anyway, we'll probably have to give it a while before we know if his own room makes a difference.)And on the docket for today.... AVOCADO!**********************************I took this picture of Jonah about twenty minutes ago. He's asleep in his own bed in his own room all the way upstairs. It was my idea. It was my decision. But I can't decide if I'm totally excited about it or completely sad. I have cried a couple times.
(And keep it to yourself about the bumper pad and the blanket being in the crib. I don't want to hear it.)
"Why has it been so hard?" you ask. Because this is what awaited me in my room...
Isn't that just the saddest thing you've ever seen?But alas, it is what it is. I just didn't feel like we'd be able to do the whole night time routine and get him used to "this is what happens at bedtime" until he was in his own room. And I could have started out slow and just done naps up there for a while, but I'm impulsive and do things on the spur of the moment. What can I say? That's just how I roll. (Plus, I didn't want to have to keep moving the SIDS monitor and his mobile back and forth twice a day.)So pray for me, friends. Our bedroom's one lonely place tonight. He's so faaaar away. Doesn't anybody stay in one place anymore? It would be so fine to see his face at my door.... Sorry. Just had to get that out.
(And keep it to yourself about the bumper pad and the blanket being in the crib. I don't want to hear it.)
73 comments:
I hope he sleeps all night in his "big boy" crib :)
Dana Z.
Oh, poor momma. You love him so much. I bet you will check on him a hundred times.
I personally love the bumper pad! It is so cute! I am so happy for you! Moving them is so hard, but oh, once you get use to it, you will sleep soooo much better without having to hear his every single move. Good luck! Keep us posted.
I bet in a week or so, you will wonder why you didn't move him in his own room earlier. I slept so much better once my kids went in their own room (every little noise woke me up) and maybe if he does wake up in the middle of the night, he might put himself back to sleep if you are not right there picking him up. Sorry it was so hard but it will be worth it...I promise!
My son is 3 months old and I am thinking of moving him any day now. I remember doing it with my daughter at 4 months - she was fine, but I was a mess! Good luck, after a few nights it will seem more normal to you. Personally, I left the bumper in too and also covered my daughter up with a blanket. Let us know how tonight goes, I'll be praying for all of you to get a good night's sleep!
Ashley in Phoenix
Cute bumper! My baby has a little blanket, and a silky (lovey) in bed with him...sometimes you just have to be a rebel, and do things the way that works best for YOU! Hope everyone sleeps peacefully tonight! Praying from Arkansas!!!
It's hard to face the changes, isn't it? It shouldn't seem like a big deal, having your child move to another room, but it's a HUGE change. My boys only moved across the hall, but I think I could still hear them when they rolled over through the night!
It's just the first of many "changes" you'll face as your little babe grows to be a little man. Wait until you have to put him on the school bus! Or until you have to send him off to college (which is what we're facing in just 32 days!).
So you just go ahead and cry! There are moms all over the country sympathizing with you tonight. But I can tell you this: you WILL get through this. Somehow, with the Lord's help, we always get through.
God bless your sweet baby boy. I so much enjoy reading about your family. Thanks for sharing with all of us.
Michelle Found
Picton, Ontario, Canada
www.fiddlersfound.blogspot.com
Aww...I definitely cried the first night we put our baby girl in her own room. And I knew it was best - but it was hard. My hubby kept saying, you can go get her & I just said (through tears) no, I can do this! And we survived :)
Also - I just downloaded GIMP myself & it seems decent. We have photoshop on an old computer, but it's not for Macs, and my new comp is a Mac. AND we don't have money to buy photoshop right now, so I'm optimistic about GIMP. Upon first review it seemed pretty good, but I haven't done too much with it yet. Downloading it was a little wierd, but if you persevere - it isn't really all that bad. Just not as straightforward as one would like. Good luck!
What a sweetheart. Hang in there mama, the growing doesn't slow down either as I'm painfully aware with one of my four children going to kindergarten soon! :)
Prayers for long sleeping nights for Jonah AND mommy and daddy. BTW I don't see anything wrong with the bumpers. When they are little it protects them from rolling their heads into the crib in the middle of an otherwise peaceful night. Now when my sons reached the age where they were crawling around the bed I took it out...just in case.
I'll pray, but you can do it!
Oh, that's so sweet! I felt the same way when we moved our youngest out of our room. And don't sweat it about the bumper pad - we still have ours on, and he's almost 2!
Congratulations on Jonah's big move - may all of you have peaceful sleep!
Love from TX!
Laura
I'm sorry. I hope you get a great night's sleep. I don't know if this will make you feel better or worse, but my baby is 4 and I still feel that way. xoxo
My son is almost 7 months, and the night I put him in his crib, I told my husband, he looks so sad...... :( ....to which my husband promptly replied - No he doesn't, you do. I took a picture of him....he slept all night! yeah. And, in the morning - huge smiles :) Good luck.
Let us know how many times you go check on him ;)
I have a bumper up, a blanket in her crib and the Angel care monitor too. SO, if domeone gives you trouble...send them my way :)
Oh Patrice, I know just how you feel. My son slept in our room until he was almost 6 months old. I hated moving him ACROSS THE HALL. I would probably be sleeping in his room if we had to move him as far as you did. Be thankful that he is sleeping just fine in his room and he isn't traumatized. This is his way of saying "Mom, I'm OK. But don't think this means I don't still need you because I do and I always will!" I cried too when we moved my son. It took a week or more before I stopped crying. I cry each time he passes a mile stone where he needs me less and less. But there is always something new that replaces it that brings me joy and shows me a new way he needs me. GREAT! Now I am crying!
I am so glad you got your computer fixed! I missed checking on Jonah everyday. Well I did check on him everyday....there just wouldn't be new post there!
oh, I still use my bumper pads and always did. Didn't do the blanket thing because he sleeps in a sleep sack. Those are wonderful! When they get to the point of being able to climb out they can't because they can't get their legs apart enough to climb over. Helps me sleep much better!
He doesn't even like a blanket on him when we are snuggling now because he has always been in a sleep sack. He only likes to hide under the blankets! I loved that you told people to keep it to themselves about the blanket and the bumpers! Very funny! I looooove the picture above his bed! If it were me with the crib in my room....knowing me I would leave it up...."just in case" of course Jonah is going to amaze us all once again and be fine sleeping in his own room! Now just get you a twin bed or recliner to put in there!
My son is about to turn two...which means there is a big boy bed in his future.....but not if I have anything to say about it. I am so sad about it but then again...I can lay in the bed and read to him. I can lay in the bed and snuggle with him at night...when he is sick I can be in the bed with him. There are some pluses. But then he officially won't be a "baby" anymore. Maybe I will wait until he is 3!
I have one of those video monitors and my husband makes fun of me all the time because I keep it on at night and I carry it every where in the house when he is napping..(if I am not napping!. I like to keep an eye on him! Besides it is nice when I wake up at night I can look at him and watch him sleep. I love the picture of him sleeping in his bed by the way. Totally precious.
Remember...he still needs you and he always will. My husband has to remind me of that all the time. He is good that way!
I will praying for a good nights sleep for you and not too many tears!
Hugs to you, Matt and especially Jonah.
Man my comments have been long lately! Sorry about that....also I am praying every day for all of you and yea for Stellan!
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! You go, girl! Can't wait to hear all about it.
Such a big boy and I pray he sleeps all night. We were all raised with bumper pads and comforters in our cribs. All mine slept on their bellies too and their are fine! :-)
I've cried too when switched the babies to their own room...just somethin' about it!
I know it is hard when you first put the baby in another room. Ian was 3 when I put him in his on room. I know I hung on way to long. Bradon was about a year and a half old so see I did a little better the second time around. I love the bumper!! I have a pic of Bradon at about 8 months old huging his bumper sound asleep. oh the shame ;)
I hate having to put my little one in her crib & sometimes I can't sleep because I am so scared I won't wake up when she cries so I check on her all the time. I am pitiful, but I don't care!
And btw, I totally kept the bumper and use a blanket in the crib with my baby. If I don't, she sticks her legs through the slats in the crib. And she likes to look at the print on the bumper. Hope no one gives you grief.
Oh bless you sweetheart! I hope you both have an amazing sleep!
Cxx
I'm praying you and Jonah both got a good night's sleep! Try a Sound machine (my kids are older, 17 and 23, so the only ones available were the ones that sound like "rushing air". I got it from Penney's. Now they have them with sounds of rain, wind,etc,. Both my kids had one and it drowns out all outside noises and they sleep better; try one in Jonah's room.
I love the bumper!!! I bet y'all both slept great!
Good for you on taking this step, although I know it was difficult. It will be for the best in the long run--for you, Matt, and Jonah. It was time....just wait until you move him to a toddler bed...FUN TIMES! Love you guys!
In case you're interested, they do make breatheable bumper pads. I believe i got mine at Target.com :-)
They would protect his little limbs (they are still quite padded feeling) but if he would happen to get his face in it he can "breathe" right through it. And they come in a few different colors so you could keep the cute decor in his room. Just thought I'd throw it out in case you didn't know about them...they are only about 20 bucks if I remember correctly.
Anyways, congrats on the first night!
I know it is hard putting them in their own bed...if it is too much for you..just bring him downstairs! But it looks like he loved his big boy bed...I used a bumper pad and blanket, and my boys slept on ther STOMACHS....that's just how I roll! I really enjoy your humor and I can't get enough of your blue~eyed beauty! much love and blessings~erin
My 16 months old has always had her bumper pad in her bed and a blanket. Now that she is older, there are more blankets and stuffed animals. I recommend getting a video monitor if you don't have one. It has been a life savor and I sleep so much better with being able to see her in her room!
Awwww....so sweet in his crib and I LOVE the picture above his bed of you...that is absolutely beautiful! Just so you know, my kids each had a bumper pad and blankies in their cribs and they turned out just fine...don't you worry. So happy to hear he slept better...might be that he needed more room as this is about the time that you move them to their crib from the cradle or bassinet. I'm praying so hard for his health and his ability to sleep through the night...it's truly glorious when you get the rest you need, it's like you are a whole new woman! Hang in there, it gets easier...mine are 10 1/2 and 6 so trust me, it does get easier eventually. Oh, and since I didn't comment on your last post, I love your blog. You're so real and down-to-earth and F-U-N-N-Y...post when you want about nothing even, cause we're all here for you virtually and want only the best for your sweet family. Take care and here's to some great sleep in the very near future chicka!
For some reason it didn't occur to me that he was still in your room, but putting him in his room is a great start!!!
My children are 7, 5.5, 3 and 8 months, and every one of them puts(soothes) themselves to bed and sleeps til 7. The baby might require his paci a few times at first, but after 10 minutes of talking to him self he is fast asleep. Let me tell you--having a set/scheduled bed time when they get older is AWESOME for your marriage. It gives my hubby and I reconnection time after a long day of work (Him working at a paying job--Me working at an nonpaying job, i.e. SAHM).
Good Luck with your new routine and try and stick with it--it will pay off--I promise!!
Hi Patrice!
I followed your blog since Jonah was born. Only commented once or twice though. You are an amazing mommy to beautiful Jonah! I'm writing to say Jimmie (who was born in his 24th week) has been fighting his feeds so badly that he'd barely get an ounce down. And this kid is almost 6 months old and barely 9lbs. Anyway. Though he was not on oxygen anymore and not desatting with a pulse ox-- we have discovered that with oxygen he doesn't struggle nearly as much and is able to take much more. We've tried the whole Zantac, Bethanecol thing cause of reflux. He has been micro-aspirating and niagra falls puking too. The O2 has helped all of that! Anyway-- you could try that with Jonah. Although the nasal cannula setup is probably not and option for him. Rach doesn't use tape though and is able to keep it on his face during feeds. At the hospital they had O2 in a tube that you could just blow in their face, but I doubt that would be an option at home. Anyway-- Rach nearly went stark raving with him fighting every feed. Sucks big time!
Yay, Jonah! I used the bumper and blankets too. My kids did absolutely fine with them! I hope he sleeps better & better for you.
I remember this being a hard step for me too! And my son slept through the night the very first time. I always left the bumper pads on my kids crib and never had a problem. Oh, and I love the picture of you above his bed. So sweet!
That’s awesome that he slept through the night in his own bed!!! I remember when my son slept in his bed for the first time; I cried b/c I felt like he was “growing up” too fast. I was really excited and really sad at the same time, but it has worked out for the best & he sleeps better in his room. I still check on Bennett 10+ times before I go to bed, it drives my hubby batty. I totally used bumper pads & a blanket when Bennett was Johan age; Bennett would bump his head or put his leg through the rails (he would spin in little circles), so we felt like we should use them (we still use a blanket, but not the bumper pads b/c one day I went in his room & he was trying to stand on them & I was afraid he was trying to break out, our son is a little rebel!). You do what is best for your family & Johan and tell everyone else to stick it, my mom told me that once (talking about us) and live by it. The painting of you above Johan’s crib is beautiful. I enjoy reading your blog, and your humor cracks me up. We’re still praying for your family! Hugs from FL
woo-hoo! Glad he had a successful first night! Be sure to take pics of the avocado!
Love,
Laura
I love the picture you have hanging on his wall! Don't worry, you'll get used to the new arrangements before you know it. Congrats on a successful night!
What a cutie. I would think the benefits of the bumper pads in not causing him blisters would outweigh the risks.
It's a big move for most moms. My first stayed in a pack-n-play in our room for 8 months. She was moved to her room when she kept standing up at 4am playing peek-a-boo. Our son moved to his room at 5 months. Both of our kids had bumpers and blankets. I hope the transition goes well. We had good and bad nights for a while...mostly good now. Prayers for good sleeping for all of you. Hey, you could always put a stuffed animal or the dog in the crib in your room. (Yeah, I'm sure the dog would love that idea and be in total compliance.) ;)
That pic of Jonah sleeping in his crib is precious. I also LOVE the painting you have above his bed. Is that you?
You'll be so glad you made the transition. Trust me on this ;)
I personally love the painting (of you?) on the wall in his room. It is beautiful. But on to more important matters, especially when they have ongoing medical issues, it is hard on the momma to put baby to bed in a different room. But as stated above, so worth the effort. When my girls were little, they didn't have those video monitors, but I bet that would put your mind at ease. Praying for you as you go through this transition. God bless.
I had a bumper pad in all three of my babies cribs and they were just fine. And they each had a blanket. So if your ok then so should everyone else. So happy to here he is sleeping better. My almost 10 month old still gets up between 4:30 and 5. And sometimes (lately at 3:30) and my other 2 slept through the night early on so every child is different. I myself liked having my kids out of my room I slept better because I woke up at every move they made.
Another thing I had the AngelCare Movement monitor. You can buy it at Target. It has a sensor that if your child stops breathing an alarm goes off. It is worth every penny. I have used it for all three of mine. If you have any questions about feel free to email me. brian_gutshall16647@yahoo.com
God Bless, Angie
Girl! I found your blog through another blog and now I'm addicted!!! I just had to tell ya I cried when both my babies went to sleep in their cribs...so you're TOTALLY normal! (Well, except for your Chick-fila addiction :))
Oh and P.s. We have bumper pads in our crib too...and blankets...and occasionally a stuffed animal :)
Good job Patrice! This is a milestone!
Excited AND sad -- we felt that when our kids went to kindergarten and when "we left them" at college.
I think you're going to really like the change.
Love you guys, Nancy
Moving our baby to his own room was one of the hardest times I had too. And I still check on him at least once a night even though he's been sleeping in his own room for 6 months now.
Don't worry about the bumper pad and blanket. We use those too and it's really only a safety hazard when babies are really young and cannot lift their heads at all or roll at all. Jonah will be just fine.
Good luck on the (hopefully) continued success!! =) For what it's worth, my 18 month old STILL has the bumper in his bed and has since he moved from the cradle in our room at about 3 mos. In fact, when sleeping at my inlaws, we ended up having to take our bumper with us because he wasn't sleeping well w/o one...he's all over the place and constantly banging his head into the sides of the crib was a definite way to wake him up. I think as Mammas, sometimes we have to do what works...not necessarily what the "books" tell us to do. Good luck and continued prayers........
Kimberley
I guess there are a lot of new rules since I had babies 22 years ago, but, who wants to roll up against bed rails, and who in the world sleeps without a blanket??? Even my dog has three different baby blankets and doesn't go to sleep without one covering her up.. My babies came home from the hospital and went to sleep in their own rooms the night they came home, bad mama? maybe, but they slept very well and so did I! Your doing a GREAT JOB!
he NEEDS the bumper pads! Believe me you don't want to go in there one morning finding him soaked in blood because he bumped his nose or ear on the side of the crib! It's amazing how much blood one little nose can produce!
I love the painting above his crib. Is it you?
I sobbed uncontrollably when we moved Madeline into her own bedroom (which was right next door to ours!). She also slept with bumpers and a blanket. If you have a SIDS monitor you should be okay :) You'll get used to it very quickly, and will grow to love how much better you will sleep with him in his own room. *sigh* they grow up so fast!
~Amy
i'm with kelsey. he's right where he's supposed to be and you'll both sleep better without each others noises waking you up. it's going to be okay!! teaching your child to comfort himself back to sleep is a gift you are giving him. (but it does mean he's growing up. i hope that's okay!)
praying for you!
Big steps and baby steps. That's what it is all about. So glad you made your decision. It was yours to make. So glad you tried. Give it time. Your room feels empty but your heart feels full.
Jennifer in Southeast, NC
Don't worry about the bumper. Aubrey is 5 months and we use it. I took it out when she was 2 months because it was a hassle to put back on. Once she started moving, she always got her limbs stuck and would wake up crying. Now with the bumper, we have no issues and she sleeps great. I also have an Angelcare Monitor so I will an alarm if anything is wrong.
Congratulations on him sleeping! Hopefully it will continue. :o)
P.S They honestly sleep better in their own crib.
Dear sweet Patrice!
I love your music reference! He's such a big boy now! So proud of you...will pray it continues to go well! And that you would have peace that his guardian angel & Jesus are watching over him while he sleeps and that this will enable you and Matt to get a better night's sleep!
Blessings to you all!
Love, Aimee Pence
ps-I have days off every now and then and just wanted to remind you that if you need me I am just a phone call away! 408-0210
Hooray! Congrats on a successful first night upstairs, Jonah!!
(per your previous post,) I'm afraid a lot of getting to sleep is a baby's disposition and how their body reacts as they get tired. It sounds like you're doing everything right! Just try to limit his awake time to about 4 hours in a stretch. Catching 'the window' seems to be the most important part of an easy bedtime routine.
Also, can you give Jonah deep squeezes on his feet/legs and arms when he doesn't have blisters? That sensory input really helped our son calm down and was a great sleep cue for him.
I was going to say something about the bumper before I saw your comment please don't. I still feel the need...my son died of SIDS. I totally believe those things should be outlawed, so does my pediatrician. And you really might want to think about taking pillows out. All of those things could kill your son. You have come too far to let things in your control hurt him. I have to say something, or our son died in vein. Sorry that you don't want to hear it, but if I could save just one baby...
yay! I am glad he slept well for you! He looks comfy.
And I am a FAN of bumpers. We used them until the boys were near a year old. I was too nervous to take them out - afraid they would hit their heads or get their hands stuck.
Always do what you feel comfortable as a mom - you are the mom, not us :)
I do NOT agree with Sara, nor do a lot of experts! It is a FACT that babies DIE from pillows and bumpers in their cribs. I would much rather see my child's nose bloody than him dead! If you love your son, and if you are thinking of him, get those things out! It's not worth it. Obviously you already know the dangers or you wouldn't have said in your post "don't say anything about the bumpers or pillows". Yes, a lot of
babies grew up with them...they got lucky! But a lot of babies have died from those things.
I have read you blog for months and have come to care about your sweet little guy, and think you are a fantastic mom. But you ask for opinions, so this is mine...and lots and lots of experts!
My kids who are now 28 & 30 sleep with bumper pads and blankets.
Is that a no no now?
I have a friend and her baby died of SIDS a couple of years ago and when they found him, his face was up against the bumper pad. He was around 7 or 8 months old. Take the chance if you want!
Do the people on here commenting that it's okay want to be responsible if something, God forbid, does happen?
Congrats on a great first night in his crib!
I have to say that I agree with the anonymous mom - Beth
I completely understand! I made my husband and myself sleep on the floor of our son's room the first 3nights in his big boy crib. I was so sad and he was all the way on the other end of our townhouse!
And we also used blankets and bumpers in his bed, so no judgements there!
Sheesh, anonymous: What part of "keep it to yourself" do you not understand?
You are not the boss of her.
She's a bright, well-informed, confident mama of two who has been around the block once or twice.
I suggest you honor her request - on HER blog - to pipe down. She's the mama, thankfully, not you.
Patrice:
I cried when every one of my kids transitioned into their own rooms. It's emotional but you have the Holy Spirit to guide you. God bless you.
much love,
rebekah
When my son was born, the plan was for him to share a room with his sister but at the last minute we decided to turn the office ALL THE WAY DOWNSTAIRS into his room. It was so hard knowing he was ont he first level while we were upstairs and he was all alone. I kept the baby monitor turned way up. i just knew he would be so scared (at 1 month old). Now we are in a one level house and he is just down the hall. And as for the bumper, I have been thinking about putting it back up (he is 18 months) becuase he keeps getting his legs stuck through the slats. I love bumpers. The beds just look so naked and well, jail like, without them.
Bumper pad AND lots of blankets with all three kids. The only negative (and it's really rather sweet) is Extreme Blanket Attachment that means you might have a little Linus on your hands.
Dont understand why you would have a SID monitor and then have that bumper and blanket in there. Not a good idea...sorry you said not to mention it buy come on.
Ya know, I am so glad all of your babies survived the bumper pad/blanket thing, but can you have a little respect for the babies who DID die because of those things and not make it sound like they don't do harm or that moms who have had a baby die of SIDS are stupid for simply trying to warn other moms because they don't want SIDS to happen anymore! Glad Y'ALLS babies didn't die, mine did. I think it scars you a little and you want to save other babies! That is all I was trying to do. Not be mean or judge, just help save another baby.Soooo, I'm very glad babies do survive bumper pads and blankets, as some DO NOT!!!!
If you saw someone about to fall off a cliff would you yell for them to watch out, or would you not because some people survive falls! I simply don't want anymore babies to die of SIDS. But, hey, I've done my job,
Read some articles on SIDS and then tell someone it's "okay" because you did it and your baby is fine.
Some people who drive drunk make it home also!
Why take the chance on SIDS? You know it is wrong to have that blanket and bumper pad in there. Read the comment about the person who lost their baby to SIDS. She speaks from experience...not these other people who say leave it in there. You say you dont want to hear it but sorry I had to say something.
YAY!!! What a big boy he is becoming...
And I still have the bumper pad and blanket in my daughters crib too (she will be 1 on Friday). We tried to take the pads out for a few nights and it just didn't work. We were up too many times.
Patrice,
It seems that the "rules" change all the time. When my kids were babies, we wouldn't think of our babies sleeping in a bed without a bumper pad and to sleep without a blanket -- no way! I would expect it is really necessary for Jonah to have a bumper pad so that he doesn't hurt his face more than he already does with his hands. Ignore everyone who is writing and telling you that you should remove it! For your baby, I'm sure it's much more safe to have it than not. You and Matt are great parents and Jonah is so very lucky!
For the Anonymous posters!
Please respect Patrice's wishes and stop posting your negative comments! This is Patrice's blog and she indicated up front that she didn't want to hear it -- so stop already! She isn't you and Jonah isn't your child. She knows what is best for him and what will protect his face and body.
Oh girl my kids sleep with bumpers, blankets AND a pillow!!! Horrible I know but it is what it is. Good luck to it happening over and over and over. I hope some of the sleeping bug Jonah had last night comes my childs way soon!!
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